New to Genital HSV-1....

[taintedlove]

My husband had a cold sore on his lip, he performed oral sex on me......and I now have genital HSV-1. The doctor called me today with the positive results. I am so devistaded and I now feel like I won't fully enjoy intimacy like before because I'll be paranoid that somehow he'll get it too. Is it possible that he could get genital HSV-1 eventhough I have no symptoms, pain, or discomfort of an upcoming ob at the time of intimacy? Can I get oral HSV-1 by kissing my husband eventhough there is no cold sore on his lip?
Any knowledge and help is appreciated.

ps- Despite the devastation, I am happy to report that my first outbreak is starting to heal nicely. The light sting sensation during urination is like a breath of fresh air compared to what it was a week ago.

[notherpes]

I am in the same position as you.  My husband of 21 years just began to get cold sores last year, 2 to be exact.  We never had sex, oral or otherwise while he had a cold sore, but I have contracted hsv last month.  I am also very devastated and I would have chosen the cold sore on the lip versus the genitals.  This is actually very emotionally devastating as I am the type who always freaked out about this type of stuff.  I am hoping my outbreaks will not be too severe, but I honestly feel tainted by this crap.  If it is virtually the same virus, why is there such a stigma about the genital version.  Why does it seem that the people who sleep around and do the raunchy stuff, seem to get all the negative tests and then they go out and put themselves in the position to be infected again??  I am reading many of the posts and the people do all of this stuff and have multiple partners.  I can understand them getting this, but not when you are with the same person for this long.  I am sorry I am just complaining and feeling sorry for myself.  This really sucks..

[gracefromHHP]

Your  husband already has hsv1 orally so he's very unlikely to contract it genitally at this point. Whenever you have any obvious genital symptoms, avoid sex to err on the side of caution but otherwise he's very unlikely to contract your hsv1 genital infection on his genitals.  This really shouldn't be too much of an issue in your relationship once you get past the "idea" of having contracted genital herpes.

grace

[life goes on]

Nothing is a 100%!  The chances of you contracted HSV1 orally without no visible outbreak is slim to known.  The chances of your husband contracted HSV1 without visible outbreaks are slim to known.  HSV1 outbreaks are minimum and occur less frequent than HSV2.  

Listen HSV1 affects many and I believe that HSV1 will be soon fazed out as an STD.

Please refrain from being intimate during outbreaks.