Odds Of Contracting

[patch261]

I am a 27 year old.  Just got out of a marriage.  Last night, for the first time I had a one night stand with an older woman.  Maybe it is the guilt of a ONS and general anxiety, but I was concerned with odds of catching herpes, or another STD for that matter.

I received oral sex twice.  We had intercourse, but I always wore a condom and there was no contact without a condom.  We also used lube.  I don't know her status.  I did ask her if she had herpes or anything before sex and she said no, but I have read that 80% people don't know if they do or not.  I felt around and fingered her for a while, so I am assuming there were no exposed blisters.

This happened last night, and maybe it is in my head, but today I feel like I am getting itching and etc.

What are the odds I got herpes from her, not knowing her status?  
What are the odds I got anything in general?

Thanks!

[patch261]

Day 3 down.  No signs or symptoms.  Phew!

[patch261]

Okay, it has now been exactly 48 hours since initial exposure.  And although I said I wasn't going to worry, I am getting a burning skin sensation on my testicles.  Could this mean a herpes blister is about to form?  

[patch261]

And Grace, I am awful at gardening, but I can totally take the dogs for a walk.  ;)

[patch261]

Glad to have your input on this and glad to hear that.  When I was diagnosed years ago, they basically told me that once I had HPV, I had it for life and to tell my partners.  But I guess that is for another forum.

So Grace, since we have you here, would you agree with mine and Mistake's assessment that I have very little to worry about?

I will add that literally about 10 minutes ago I got a burning sensation in my scrotum.  I also scratched my area then had a scratch on my eyelid, which is now burning too.  Is this anxiety, possibly something related to a possible herpes initial outbreak, or something completely different.  I know, I know...nothing can be know until you have blisters that can be swabbed or a blood test, but I am wondering what you opinion on this is.  If I wake tomorrow with a blister, I will be pretty sad.  But #1) at least I will know for sure and #2) I can learn to deal with it.  

Grace, would love hear your input on my situation.  Mistake has offered some good points on the possibility of contraction, but given your expertise, would love to hear your thoughts as well.

[gracefromHHP]

wait, cleaning your own kitchen? I thought the accepted method of keeping yourself busy so you don't go crazy with anxiety over encounters was to come to my house and clean, walk the dogs and help me get the garden ready to go in? lol

It's accepted at this point that if hpv doesn't reoccur in a year after having it removed, that it's cleared from the body. Lots of decent recent research on this thanks to the gardasil vaccine trials.   In studies, if you get warts again after that, it's because you contracted a new hpv infection with a different type.  there are some exceptions to that but in general, that's the way it goes.

[patch261]

I just cleaned and organized my kitchen and felt great.  I actually am not too worried that I contracted herpes.  I have a Ph. D and I know about stats and after reading from some medical journals I do see how low risk it is after one exposure in men.  One study (1992) looked at men and of 76 men who had females partners, only 3 actually got it.  And of the people at risk who wore condoms, which was 42, only 2 transmitted it, but does not say if it were females or males.  However, of the 101 people at risk who did not, the number was 12.  All in all, out of 144 couples, only 14 got HSV (11 were females) over 334 days.  An additional study (2005) suggested that the median time of duration in a relationship before contraction was 3.5 months.  This of course does not mean that single exposure impossible, but certainly rare.  Once you get over the emotional stigma of "I might have gotten an STD" or "****, I did something I knew I shouldn't have" and you focus on the facts, it is easier to chill out.  

I'm staying busy and keeping my mind.  I will probably continue to post here to let you all know how I am doing and also help out any other people who are in the same position as I am.  I have never used forums before, but communicating with you all has been helpful and much better than I communicating with friends or family about a problem that may or may not occur.  

My HPV outbreaks are less frequent.  Actually I had one right before the wedding and got it removed and didn't have one for a year after.  It had been years since I had one before that.  There are over 60 strains so it is different in one person to the next.  But, it doesn't just go away like you said.  It stays in your body forever.  See, I taught you something you didn't know.  haha.  

Divorce, well, it is life.  I am still hopeful that one day we can reconcile and maybe remarry.  I guess that is why I have the guilt I do because I am still holding onto the past rather than moving forward and trying to date in a healthy way.  Sure would have been a lot better than getting drunk and tricked into sleeping with someone though.  I am too afraid to get back into a relationship, but after this...I can clearly see that I am not built for one night stands like my friends.  Way too scared still.  

Still going to pray that I don't see any pimples, blisters, bumps, sores, etc and like you said in your first post, if I don't see anything in the next two weeks, I am going to learn and move on.