Please Help!

[terger]

I have read many of the posts on this site, but just want to make 100% sure...

I had unprotected oral sex (both performing and receiving) with a massage therapist 4 days ago, and protected vaginal sex.  My wife is 3 months pregnant.  I feel like a complete a**hole and don't want to hurt my wife or baby.
I went to my PCP Weds. (3 days post-exposure) and got tests done for every STD besides Herpes, but the results will not be available until next week.  Obviously I will refrain from sexual intercourse until the tests come back but I have some lingering questions:

1) Was the test done too early to diagnose (HIV, Syph, Chlam, Gonn, NGU)?
2) Was it foolish to not get Herpes tested? I have heard a lot about false negatives and the masseuse did not have any visible sores.
3) Can I french kiss my wife without fear of transmitting anything I might have? If not, how long to wait.
4) Any other tips/things I should be concerned about?

Thanks

[brokerkim]

Thank God you have a conscience. If it is Herpes, you will break out in 30 days from the date of exposure. French kissing won't give her anything but a cold sore if you have one. Men usually show signs of STD's within a few days of exposure...burning, discharge, etc. which is good if you are not experiencing anything abnormal. It is the woman that has a hard time identifying that she has an STD which makes women more likely the carrier..Good Luck but I think you are fine. If your lymph nodes in the groin area become swollen and hurt and your penis starts to itch, get ready for your first herpes break out. I seriously doubt that will happen but better safe than sorry. Now. Keep your zipper up.

[bobrope45]

your exposure was very low risk for herpes. if you experience symptoms, be seen by a doctor - but other than that, you should not worry about having contracted herpes from the particular encounter.