I've been talking to someone via email for a while, and things are heating up a little, and the possibility of being intimate with this person is there, and the subject of stds came up, and they were honest and told me this:
"I have had cold sores for 31 years. They appeared when I was around 26 yo.
I take Lysine every day to help prevent them, and I'm usually able to. But sometimes I get so stressed that they make an appearance. Usually losing money. But with a combo of Abreva, and Peroxide I can usually have it(them)under control within 4-5 days. I am proactive in destroying the weeping, and then I usually rip the skin off. The healing begins.
I stay sexually inactive for 2 weeks. It would devastate me if I infected anyone by carelessness. Because this happened by a significant other, I have been vigilant.
So lets say I had one. I would write you, and say I am unavailable. That is how I have dealt with this for the last thirty years."
O.k I know the risk is lower, but couldn't I still contract herpes from simply kissing this person, even with out cold sores being present? I know for a fcat that I don't have any std's right now.....did a full panel a while back and came back negative.