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Should I tell my new girlfriend I just tested positive on the Herpes IgM test
So I decided to get a STD test. I have no symptoms, but I haven't had a test in 10 years and I've F'd up maybe 4 times or so since then. Also, I sense that this is going to be a long term relationship, so I wanted to be able to honestly say I'm clean if she asks. I haven't told her I went for the test.
The test came back neg on everything except the IgM for herpes. (IgG negative)
The Dr suggested that it could be traces of my body successfully fighting off the virus, but that it was unlikely. Left the office thinking shoot, this sucks.
I've done some research online and it seems like many people think the IgM test is worthless and that many clinics don't even use it.
Just kissing so far with the new girlfriend.... But there's a strong likely hood that that will change this weekend.
So, do I make things awkward and explain all this to her? Or do I ignore it, since a lot of places wouldn't have even done this test.
Sexually history in last 6 months:
Kissing new girlfirend - started 11 days before test.
Received oral sex(and kissed) from someone else 15 days before test.
Yup, that's it!
The test came back neg on everything except the IgM for herpes. (IgG negative)
The Dr suggested that it could be traces of my body successfully fighting off the virus, but that it was unlikely. Left the office thinking shoot, this sucks.
I've done some research online and it seems like many people think the IgM test is worthless and that many clinics don't even use it.
Just kissing so far with the new girlfriend.... But there's a strong likely hood that that will change this weekend.
So, do I make things awkward and explain all this to her? Or do I ignore it, since a lot of places wouldn't have even done this test.
Sexually history in last 6 months:
Kissing new girlfirend - started 11 days before test.
Received oral sex(and kissed) from someone else 15 days before test.
Yup, that's it!
oral herpes is active periodically even when there aren't obvious cold sores present. you don't need to have obvious symptoms in order to transmit the virus to a partner.
I was talking about the one-night-thing girl. she called her dr and I think he contradicted him/herself. He said she was neg on everything AND that the only was she could have passed anything is if she had a sore in her mouth which she says she didn't.
she needs to make sure that herpes is included in her testing. it's not a part of routine std testing in most clinics. don't hesitate to ask her to get copies of her last std test results to show you if trust hasn't been established yet in this relationship.
Told her about it today. Just happened to do a test herself. Said she gets tested every 6 months and has always been neg on everything. Just happened to get results back monday and they were all neg. Unfortunately I dont trust her 100%.
correct. if there were good odds that you could've gotten hsv2 from oral, I would've advised more testing.
Basically it'd have to be a perfect storm
A. She had hsv2 in her month - rare
B. She transmitted it via the 1 time she gave my oral - very rare.
A. She had hsv2 in her month - rare
B. She transmitted it via the 1 time she gave my oral - very rare.
Found my answer here http://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/HSV-1--Unprotected-fellatio/show/317229
After sleeping on it I realize you're right. I this point it'd be dumb to pay for another test. Going out with GF Saturday and we'll talk. She wants me to get tested again but I don't think I've explained what the results mean clearly.
You might be able to clarify something for me. You said that I'm not going to get hsv2 from oral.... Yet, it is possible, right? I mean, it's even possible from kissing, isn't it?
Basically in a situation where I'm telling her that there's a very good chance that the results are bogus and that I don't have herpes, but that I wont be 100% sure for 3 months.
It appears that no matter how I look at it, that's the situation I'm in. I guess I should just be greatful that I probably don't have it.
You might be able to clarify something for me. You said that I'm not going to get hsv2 from oral.... Yet, it is possible, right? I mean, it's even possible from kissing, isn't it?
Basically in a situation where I'm telling her that there's a very good chance that the results are bogus and that I don't have herpes, but that I wont be 100% sure for 3 months.
It appears that no matter how I look at it, that's the situation I'm in. I guess I should just be greatful that I probably don't have it.
no reason for more herpes testing. save your money!!! you aren't going to get hsv2 from oral sex and if you had no symptoms genitally within a few weeks after receiving oral, you know you didn't contract hsv1 genitally.
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Confusiion-over-other-IgM-Herpes-posts/show/248394 this is a terrific prior post that goes into details as to why the herpes igm test is a flawed test and shouldn't be done in the first place.
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Confusiion-over-other-IgM-Herpes-posts/show/248394 this is a terrific prior post that goes into details as to why the herpes igm test is a flawed test and shouldn't be done in the first place.
Much longer than 3 months.... but had oral once just recently. Going to lab express on tue. Wish me luck. Thanks everyone
That's good that you're honest....however, IgM is completely worthless... You cannot read a thing into it. You really had no need to disclose those results. Now she's probably worried for nothing.
When's the last time you had sex? If it's more than 3 months, as grace stated (and she's the expert on this board,) you are negative.
When's the last time you had sex? If it's more than 3 months, as grace stated (and she's the expert on this board,) you are negative.
Well, I told her. She's not so happy. Awkward! Im happy I was open and honest though. She's just not thrilled that I am the type of guy that would do a one night stand thing.... hopefully I'm neg. Even with all the warnings, I never thought id have to worry about protection with oral. I feel like shat.
you haven't had sex with this gal so you know there's no chance of it being a potentially new genital herpes infection. the igm test should've never been drawn on you in the first place and disregard the results. if it's been more than 3 months since you last had sex, no need for more testing either.
definitely talk to your partner as in talking about both of your std testing history. You can have a copy of your results to show her and she can do the same for you. that way you both know who was tested for what so you don't get many surprises later on.
grace
definitely talk to your partner as in talking about both of your std testing history. You can have a copy of your results to show her and she can do the same for you. that way you both know who was tested for what so you don't get many surprises later on.
grace
I am deff no expert, but from going through my own journey, i have learned the IGM test is untrustworthy, and your igg says negative. I suspect you are really negative. I have learned that even though you think your dr is great, it seems to me that most are grossly uninformed. if you have been exposed than you are in fact infected. I dont know what to tell you in response to your new girlfriend, but no matter what, practice safe sex and i would get another igg test. if its neg, you are good, if its a low pos, get additional testing. good luck and do not overstress like i am. lol
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