I've been married for 13 years and haven't been with anyone other than my wife in 15 1/2 years. About four years ago I came down with a staff infection on my leg...fought staff infections for a year. During this time I developed 3/4 blisters (very small...not painfull) on the the head of my penis. I was concerned but thought since I hadn't been with anyone else and I'm sure my wife hasn't that they were from the staff infection of the medicine I was taking or just poison ivy. I didn't know a thing about herpes.
This past week (four years later) I developed those same four blisters (I believe). I felt achy, my stomach hurt, my legs hurt, my but hurt. Looked these symptoms up on the net and BINGO..sounds like Herpes!!!! I was very premiscous before I was married (was with way too many women).
What should I do? I've been having protected sex (besides when we wanted children) for 13 years. Should I tell her? If yes...what good would that do except make her worry? I'd surely imagine she has it by now and just isn't showing any symptoms.
I'm so scared that I will lose her and my children as she won't believe that I had never slept with anyone other than her and I'm scared that she will get it and suffer for my early in life transgressions.