did my husband cheat?

[Mommy541]

Okay, I just had a baby 2 months ago! I had a natural/vaginal deliverly! I have two other previous healthy vaginal deliveries! Here's my question! I had a schelduled 6 week checkup for a Monday, two days before that I had unprotected sex with my husband of 7 years! Note, he is the only person I have been with sexually for the past 7 years!!! When I went to my checkup, I had a red patch of a cluster of bumps around where you shave. I thought it was maybe a irritaion of some sort, all though I havent shaved since before my delivery! Anyhow, based on my ob's visual inspection he said it was definatley HSV, and asked if I had intercourse in the past 21 days. When I answered yes, he said well thats when you were infected! He took a culture but the culture came back negative! He said he doubts the culure so I have blood work schelduled! My question is, would this mean my husband cheated on me, and he just got it and just gave it to me? Also could he of had it for 7 years and I just now get it? I hopin for a negative blood test as well! Its just odd how we had sex and it showed up basically in 2 days!! What do you guys think??

[gracefromHHP]

it's not likely you or your husband have ever been tested for herpes before. it's not a part of routine pregnancy testing nor is it a part of routine std testing.  

At this point, since herpes is suspected, you and your husband both should get type specific herpes igg blood tests to see who has what and go from there. if this is a newly acquired infection for you, it won't show up on the blood tests this early so getting hubby tested too will help you see if you need additional testing or not to confirm your status if you test negative herpes on your blood test.

does herpes just showing up now mean hubby had to have cheated? absolutely not though certainly  depending on your blood test results and his, it's a question you are allowed to ask him just to be sure if you need to get tested for anything else.  Herpes isn't as easily transmitted as folks assume it is so either one of you could've had herpes prior to meeting each other and never knew it and it' s just recently given you an ob obvious enough that you get diagnosed.  

I can help you with your blood test results when  you both have them back.

grace

[coffeeortea]

1/3-1/4 of visual diagnoses by medical professionals tend to be incorrect, so best to wait for a conclusive blood test result.

If you do test positive, it's very possible he could have had it prior to you two being married and not have been aware he had it. A lot of people don't show symptoms or have very mild symptoms that people attribute to something else besides herpes. Approximately 80% of people with HSV-2 aren't aware they have it.

The odds of catching it from having sex with the same person 2/3 times a week over the course of a year is 1/1000. So it's not unusual to have never been infected until now even though you were exclusively together for 7 years.