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having a relationship with hsv2
i just found out i have hsv2 this past month. ive been with my partner for 15 months is it normal that he doesnt want to take any precautions to protect himself? im having a hard time coping with me having it n dont want him to touch me. its just making me suspicious thinking he knew he had it n gave it to me. ive never had an obviuos outbreak so im doing alot of inspecting n he yells at me when i do. tells me hes not changing our sex life so it doesnt matter if im having an OB. is this normal? i did make an igg appointment for him. i just wonder if he knows he has hsv2 n never told me or if he just really is super supportive-which im having a hard time swallowing. but hey maybe its normal, so thats why im asking
it gets confusing when you have multiple posts like this. try to keep them all in one post from this point forward - thanks!!
you have a lot going on right now. Probably not the best time to second guess your spouse at this point. get him tested, find out what his status is and go from there. it's ok if he doesn't want to take any precautions other than avoiding sex any time you have anything going on genitally - that's what most discordant couples do actually ( if it turns out that he doesn't have hsv2 ). You guys have been through a lot in the past 15 months. At this point, take care of yourself, your baby and your marriage. If in a few months your marriage isn't doing so well from all this stress, seek out a marriage counselor to work on it all so that your baby is being raised in a healthy environment. Not saying ignorance is bliss by no means, just pointing out that this is second guessing and stress that you don't need at this point. If you wonder if your spouse had other partners than you, follow up with full std testing again at your appointment you make for your exam as I recommended in your other post.
grace
you have a lot going on right now. Probably not the best time to second guess your spouse at this point. get him tested, find out what his status is and go from there. it's ok if he doesn't want to take any precautions other than avoiding sex any time you have anything going on genitally - that's what most discordant couples do actually ( if it turns out that he doesn't have hsv2 ). You guys have been through a lot in the past 15 months. At this point, take care of yourself, your baby and your marriage. If in a few months your marriage isn't doing so well from all this stress, seek out a marriage counselor to work on it all so that your baby is being raised in a healthy environment. Not saying ignorance is bliss by no means, just pointing out that this is second guessing and stress that you don't need at this point. If you wonder if your spouse had other partners than you, follow up with full std testing again at your appointment you make for your exam as I recommended in your other post.
grace
he could wherever he came into contact with it at. but i think he may have gotten it thru a cut he got during delivery on his forehead. not sure tho. n just so ya know with my baby getting it is the only reason i found out i had it. this is why ive never noticed any lesions. doc didnt notice any during delivery. so im wondering if mine is in my cervix? but i just wonder if me getting fevered n achy late during pregnancy was when i got herpes n not part of my uti symptoms. ill never know tho.
Would he have body outbreaks ? where at?
That guys doesn't sound respectful towards you. I'm sorry you have to go through this. BUT you seem strong and you'll make it through.
That guys doesn't sound respectful towards you. I'm sorry you have to go through this. BUT you seem strong and you'll make it through.
yes. it is. he turned blue n had to be put on a vent at 12 days old. he seems to be doing great now. he never got any skin outbreaks. just meningitis
he started acting really distant 2mos before i had our baby n wouldnt have sex with me even after me begging. claimed he was stressed, also supposably was bothered by me having a belly, and didnt want to stir things up in there for me. cuz i was having contractions and they would become more consistant after sex. but i was begging n for 3 wks he wouldnt. yet he went to a strip club! i was soo upset. being pregnant made it worse
glad i got a reply! lol. so im not the only one out there wondering if my guy kept a secret from me or if hes just a really good guy that loves n supports me? it really kills me not knowing which it is. but do think the possibility is there that he kept a secret n is gonna pin it on me. either way it doesnt matter i already got it. n now my baby too! just would have been nice to know for pregnancy if he he did kbow he had it. i feel really bad wondering if i should point fingers.
P.S. my guy has been doing the same thing with no protection. He has known from day one with me...so that's now his problem.
Woah, this sounds like my situation. I got the entire "I will never abandon you" "Its just a virus, a skin condition".... He doesn't even care if he gets it. It makes me wonder myself. Yet, he's really mature about things in life and maybe he honestly doesn't care.
I told him to get tested and we'll see. Not sure why someone would be so cool about it. He might have it since you've been with him for 15 months.... and who knows who anyone got it from.
I told him to get tested and we'll see. Not sure why someone would be so cool about it. He might have it since you've been with him for 15 months.... and who knows who anyone got it from.
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