HSV or other issue?

[adviceplease1234]

Got severely drunk and had protected vaginal sex with a CSW 32 days ago.  Condom remained intact but finished off with mutual masterbation without condom.  No mouth or genital kissing but I did kiss breasts.

2 days after I could feel some tenderness in my neck glands.  
5 days after I could feel tenderness in my armpits as well.  
10 days after I feel general malaise and fatigue.  Thought this might have all been mental but I play an organized sport and my teammates asked if I was okay given I could suddenly no longer keep up.
23 days after I get a mild sore throat (no sinus issues)
25 days after sore throat develops into mild to moderate flu symptoms (body aches, headache, more malaise, no fever).  This persists for a week and continues today.
30 days after I develop a back ache in middle part of back.

Over this entire time, no sore / lesions or any issues of any kind with genital or buttocks area and I check multiple times a day.  Have had some weird tingling in my face and lips but I think that might be my anxiety.  No sores or lesions in mouth.

I definitely plan to get tested once enough time has passed.  I seem to have all the symptoms of HSV w/o the sores.  What are the chances it's HSV?  What other STD's should I be checking for?

I'm married eight years with two kids and have never strayed before.  I'm basically having daily panic attacks over this.  Any input would be helpful.

Thanks in advance.

[steveB1232]

how did all your test turn out?

[steveB1232]

did you test for other stds as well?

[Fleetwood20]

Thank you very much for adding to the story. I agree with you that for full comfort, a 12-16 weeks is conclusive in the negative.

[adviceplease1234]

Many of these threads don't come to a conclusion so I thought I'd provide an update to hopefully be helpful to others.  My 5 week IGG test was negative for both HSV 1&2.  My swab test of the bump was also negative.  Flu symptoms subsided after about two weeks.  Malaise as well and generally have energy back.  Lower back still aches so not sure what that's all about.

Thank you Fleetwood for your advice.  My dr. did not tell me to retest but he wasn't focused on elapsed timing either.  He seemed to be of the opinion the negative is definitive.  I think I will retest at 16 weeks to confirm.

[adviceplease1234]

So the ups and downs continue.  I went to my dermatologist today for another opinion.  She was also very confident the bump was not hsv.  In fact she popped it and said it was full of keratin (making it a cyst) which is what she expected.  She swabbed it and sent it to lab for testing but said it was definitely not hsv.  

Now waiting for blood work and swab test to come back.

[adviceplease1234]

Fleetwood, can I ask one follow up?

The bump has now grown to the size of a small pea.  It also now has pain to the touch (similar to pimple pain).

Why do you think the symptoms do not align?  Maybe it's because I've been feeling so terrible for almost 10 days now with flu symptoms but I can't get out of my head the following fact pattern:

1. Risky encounter
2. Sore throat develops
3. Flu symptoms develop and remain (I rarely even get a cold)
4. Random unexplainable back pain
5. Bump develops in genital area which turns painful (don't recall this ever happening before)

While my timing seems like it's a little late, I keep reading about people who have had similar experiences and ultimately tested positive.  

I'm praying that you and my MD are correct but I keep running 1-5 through my head and thinking there can only be one explanation.  Any further insight would be so much appreciated.  Thanks again for your time and input.

[Fleetwood20]

Good on you for geting the right test.

The bump does even resemble a herpes lesion by your description.

I'd agree you have a virus, but not a genitally focused one!

[adviceplease1234]

Ok, so I visited my PCP today (Internal Medicine).  He spent a lot of time thinking about my symptoms and examined my bump.  He believes it is definitely a viral issue but did not think it was herpes.  He ordered a IGG test to confirm but felt quite confident it is something else.  Keeping my fingers crossed.

I'm still completely freaking out but a little bit less so now.

[adviceplease1234]

Thank you for taking the time to respond.  It was helping to calm my anxiety a bit.  Of course, now this morning (34 days past) I found a bump in the area between my shaft and right leg.  It is a single bump that is red/skin colored and looks and feels a lot like a pimple (slightly raised, with a hard base beneath the skin).  Doesn't hurt or itch nor does it seem filled with liquid.  Does this seem like it's a sore?  I'm pretty convinced that it its.

Would it be advisable to take an IGG test now at 35 days?  

Thanks again.

[Fleetwood20]

You can be pretty much assured that this is not herpes, the symptoms are in no way aligned.

Given it was protected, then all of STDs have near zero chance. For your own peace of mind you can proceed to have HIV, Gon, Chlam, Hep ABC, Trich. As mentioned, I do not believe this aligns too well with any STD (most of which have few symptoms upon infection anyway). The closest STD to your symptoms might be Hep A/B.