herpes or not?

[hawaii35]

Hi. I am a 30 yr old female and became pregnant in may 2009.  In June 2009 I became sick.  My doctors did some sort of panel of blood tests to see what I was sick with.  They told me that I tested positive with the herpes virus.  It was the IGM blood test showing that I was newly infected.  I didn't have any symptoms that I thought that related to herpes at that time.  Since September of 2009 I began to have these paper cut sensations on the outer labia and the area right above the clitoris.  These symptoms seem to last 2 weeks or so then start to go away but then return before I seem to get any relief.  I also had one blister that was tingling and painful that lasted about 4 to 5 days in november 2009.  I did not notice any scabs.  After the blister was gone that area of my skin hurt for about a month and a half to 2 months.  I have not had any blisters since then but continue to have these paper cut sensations.  I have had several IGG blood tests since then (the last one was in december 2009) all of these have been negative.  Is this Herpes or some other skin disorder?  If it is another skin disorder do you have any suggestions?  I am so scared and I need closure on this matter.
Thank you.

[gracefromHHP]

well you are not upsetting me and if I had issues with your questions, I'd have told you to knock it the heck off ;)

I think the longer you put off resuming sexual relations with your hubby, the harder it will get don't you?    told ya, have a few drinks and go for it :)

grace

[hawaii35]

I am so sorry for all the questions that i've had :(  I don't want to upset anyone.  I just feel so scard. With my inital blood test and doctors who tell me they just don't know.  I want my life back.  I just don't feel like I will ever get it back.  I hate feeling like this.  I never used to be like this.   I am an outgoing, fun, loving type of person.  my husband says he is not worried and that he doesn't think i have type 1 or 2, yet at the same point he is asking me to look at pimples on himself.  That just make me think he is unsure.  This has been such a confusing, upseting and frustrating situation.  I want an end to it, but who knows,  i'll  probably be in limbo forever.
sorry grace :(

[gracefromHHP]

I'm saying if you do have herpes, it's more likely to be hsv1 than hsv2 though really with 4 tests negative for hsv1, it's not even likely that you have hsv1

Honestly sweetie, you need to just stop thinking herpes. odds are whatever went on was just whatever and not herpes.  it's time to get your life back.

grace

[hawaii35]

so basically your saying that I could most likely have hsv1, and my blood test could not be picking up the IGG's?  I just wish I had a culture done on that one blister/bump I told you about.  I'm sorry I don't want to sound stupid, but I just am so devistated by all of this.  I've been together with my spouse for 10 years now, and I am just so confused by all of this.  I don't want to transfer anything to my children.  I'm affraid to even kiss them.  I know all of my doctors say all of america has this....I've heard that from a lot of people, but I don't want to be the mom who gives this to her child.  When my kids are teenagers and they get it from a boyfriend or girlfriend, it was their decision.  I don't want that to hang over my head that I gave it to them.  :(

[gracefromHHP]

here's my take on things, if you have genital herpes, you either got it from your partner or you had it prior to him. you've been having unprotected sex all this time, why change anything now? if it is hsv1 genitally, the odds of transmission are very , very low that you'd pass it on to him if he didn't have it.  I'd just avoid sex whenever things aren't feeling right down yonder and take no other precautions. the same precautions most of us take in general when we think we have a vaginitis or something going on.  

the only way to diagnose hsv1 genitally accurately is from a lesion culture of actual symptoms. unless you get a recurrence of symptoms, no way to test for that.  

[hawaii35]

also, in addition to my previous post.  do u think it would be safe to have unprotected oral sex.  or should we be doing something to be safe for a while?  thank u.