possible infection? advise/input please

[trm2s]

I have had ongoing issues for some time. About a year ago i had continuous pain, itching, uncomfortableness in my groin, anus, inner thighs constantly with no sores or lesions and it has continued to this day. Was tested multiple times for all std's ( all negative) and and given every bacterial medication known to man and nothing helped. I visited multiple specialist including urologist (even got cystoscope done)and they came to the conclusion I had prostintitis(in other words they had no clue what was wrong with me). I just accepted the result and have continued to live my life with this irritation pain constantly since. It usually last for 2 months then goes away for a couple weeks then comes back........About 3 weeks ago I decided to see a different doctor to try my luck that someone could figure out my issue. Literally the morning that I woke up to see the doctor I noticed a red bump on my shaft and freaked (it went away in about 4 days). I had had drunken intercourse with a friend 3-4 days prior for the 1st time unprotected, and have no reason to think she is unclean. When i went to the doc he said it wasn't enough to even swab so he did an IGG and IGM test. My results for IGG came back negative but IGM came back positive (1.33) and he called me and said it was a new infection and called me in a script for preventive meds ( i know I've never had a cold sore before). Of course i became depressed and saddened deeply about it all. I am sexually active but try and take the proper precautions as much as possible. Since then I had one small bump pop up on my shaft where the foreskin starts. It remained there for about 5 days and went away, it was not painful. I have been taking the meds as directed and have had no bumps since.....I did get a bump on the roof of my mouth and have  had a sore throat the past couple days but went to the doc about it and he didn't think anything of it and gave me some bacterial meds......I have planned to retest for IGG in 2 months since that is what I had been told is the best timeframe. I am dating a new girl during all this and I am struggling with what to do or say in regards to all this. i don't want to tell her I have something and not really know........I guess my question are 1)how accurate are these IGM and IGG tests? 2)Would you recommend retesting? 3) How should I handle the situation with my current sexual partner? 4) Do you feel this is herpes?

Thank you for your input and advise in advance

[Fleetwood20]

Nothing here changes my previous comments, you do need to be careful to protect this current partner and have testing in the appropriate time frames.

[trm2s]

Also would it be typical of herpes to have the small bumps on my penis show up a week apart (just 1 bump each time in different spots) and then the spot on the roof of my mouth a week after that?   I've felt sluggish and  fluish ever since the bump on my throat showed up.  This all scares the heck out of me.

[trm2s]

I have had full testing on all of those items in regards to prostate ect. That I hope just passes with time.
My current issue with the IGM positive result and the small bumps that appeared recently are what scare me. I did feel down and sluggish at this time but I feel that was due to the depression of the diagnosis from the test. I did feel sick though during this episode with my throat but from what i hear it would be very unlikely that I transmitted anything to my throat if I have anything at all. Really just need some piece of mind that I won't hurt my current partner....

[Fleetwood20]

Have you considered a Westernblot test (if you are US based) to confirm that there is not a HSV1 infection that is not being detected by commercial IgG tests?

What you describe though is not uncommon; men sometimes to have difficult to diagnose problems involving prostate, pelvic floor muscles, testicles and bladder for example. I trust you have had full testing for STDs and other diseases that can impact those organs?

Although it strictly cannot be ruled out, it is unlikely that herpes was the cause of your longer term problems you describe.

The IgM test is not a good test and should be taken only as a sign that your body may be fighting a HSV infection. Confirmatory testing is always required. IgG is much more accurate and is the only test you should apply any credibility to.

The drunken encounter does remain of concern and therefore you need testing 12 weeks at least post that encounter to have some confidence you weren't infected.

As for the new girl, sorry but the responsible thing to do is to be open and say you've had some symptoms over the past year that although are unlikely to be STDs how about we wait 3 months and jointly test, compare notes and assess things from there. In the meantime, lots of restaurants, movies and good times. If she doesn't respect or see the sense in that, well...