With hsv-1, will i ever have normal sex again? i am freaking out because i cannot figure out where i got the virus, how i got it on my genitals! my husband and i "date" another couple. they all insist they have no stds (one thing we openly discussed before sex). if thats true, then how did i get hsv1 on my genitals? i have told my husband. how do i know how long i have had the virus? how do i locate a doctor who specializes with herpes (virologist?). is there anyone out there who has the same situation as me and has a normal sex life? i have no blisters until i have sex, then i get one blister, same place, every time, with a large lump on my vagina! how am i going to continue having a sex life like this?