so worried HELP ME!!!!!

[E3622]

At the age of 19 I was tested positive for herpes simplex 2. I am now 36 you so and have not transmitted any infection to any of my partners. Now that I am in a relationship with a guy that I absolutely adore I'm afraid that I will  give him the virus. so I recently started taking Valtrex everyday for suppressant but still afraid of shedding and passing herpes to him. What is a possibility that I would do this.

[gracefromHHP]

you need to discuss this with him - it's being sexually responsible. it also is a trust issue and you don't want to start a relationship without full trust.

he'll need to be tested to know his own status. you two can't make educated decisions about what precautions to take until you know who has what. if you two avoid sex anytime you have anything going on genitally, you continue on the valtrex daily and also use condoms, on average he's 99% likely each year NOT to contract hsv2 from you.  also make sure you discuss all other stds and testing too - it's so not just about the herpes you know you do have!

[E3622]

I was tested by getting a culture done and i was having three to four outbreaks a year. I am now taking valtrax once a day for the last six weeks. To the best of my knowledge he hasnt been tested. Im so afaid to bring it up fearing that he may not understand and leave me. I have been in long term relationship before and never passed it to any one without being on medication. I so confused and scared

[gracefromHHP]

let's start at the very beginning - how were you tested for herpes?

how do you treat your herpes?

how often do you have recurrences?

has your new guy been tested for herpes to know his own status?

grace