If the two of you can't discuss the hysterectomy together alone, ask her to go with you to an appointment with her doctor, and ask the questions of him while she is in the room. If she refuses, I would suspect she had the hysterectomy for a more complicated reason.
That is what I don't understand. I would have thought that they would treat the bacterial infection first. Then, if needed they would perform the hysterectomy. She is 55 years old. I wished I could call her doctor, but that would mean I have her consent to do so, I do not. She never stated she was hurting to me.
sorry, left *un*treated, not left treated.
Well, I don't know much about ureaplasma uraelyticum, but if my husband gave me gardnerella, I would not be too happy, as it can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease and scarring that creates infertility. The interesting question is if either thing, even if they caused a big infection, would mean she needed a hysterectomy. I think both are treatable with antibiotics, though if something was left treated a long time and caused pelvic scarring, antibiotics would not solve the scarring. If you would like, call her doctor who did the hysterectomy and ask if either of those can cause enough damage to a woman that the hysterectomy is the only way to fix it. I tend to think that if she had a hysterectomy it was required by a different problem, but maybe if she had really severe scarring and it was hurting her, that was why the doctor made the recommendation.