Regardless of cause. . .

[momsince92]

Whether my daughter has IBS or not, she still will not go to school.  I don't know what to do.  THe school has actually been very tolerant but I don't know how long that will last.  If the pain is anxiety/stress related (which is what I believe), then not going to school is actually prolonging the pain because it's a never ending cycle then.  Everyone tells me "JUST MAKE HER GO" but when she's your child and she begins to cry so much that she looks like she's going to be ill, and on top of it she's in 8th grade and taking her and dropping her off in that state will cause more psych damage to her than if she was younger, I'm at a loss.  She just started an anti-anxiety medicine last Friday so I'm really hoping that helps.  I can't get her into a pediatric GI until Dec 3 - maybe I'm ready for a therapist :)

Anyway, I guess I'm just venting - but if anyone has ANY ideas on how to get her back to school I'd much appreciate it.
Thanks

[spacie_05]

I understand, I have IBS and I had to deal with it through out high school and now college. There were several,several,several days when I felt like i just couldn't go to school (even now it still happens) It is very hard not only because of the pain but because it is embarassing. I mean there were days I would have to literally run to the bathroom. And even though it is rather embarassing it is important to keep the teachers informed about her conditon like not nessasarily in every detail but make them aware that she needs to be allowed to get up even in the middle of class, have a signal or somethign to where the teacher knows she is leavin and will be back when she feels better. Another part is being prepared and understadning that it isn't her fault, I mean it really isn't easy dealing with this stuff and things happen that are out of your control. That is prob one of the hardest parts of dealing with this is knowing that sometimes thigns happen and you just have to take help and try to move on and forget about it. It takes a lot of courage to be an advocate for yourself especially at that young (and even more so about such personal/embarassing issues) but it is important to know that no matter what she is in control of her lfie and her anxiety,IBS, or any other problem is not. It is a hard lesson to learn and I wish I could offer you advice but all I know is that I know where she is coming from, I wish you all the best with seeking answers!

[lagoya]

hi
i am not sure how old a eight grade child is {different country} ,but there must be a underlying reason for this to happen ..has he/she always been like this or is it a new thing .
anxiety/stress does not help ibs in the long run and the more it is not confronted the more it will begin to hurt and cause complications.most kids find school difficult to a certain degree but it is something we all have to persue in order to recieve a good and proper eduaction ,for me if it were my child i would try and find the root cause of the anxiety and if it is ibs find a good gastro and find ways to control it ....i will just say here as well a lot of ibs symptoms are linked to celiac disease {gluten} and this can cause a lot of symptoms with anxiety as  well due to the gi being irriated a lot ..but that is something to keep in mind .
school is supposed to be enjoyed and is a great time for a kid ,to learn ,make friends and form their personality and while it is difficult for u as a parent to see them hurting a solution should be sought ....for both of you ,,maybe a change of school might help