is it me?

[gluttenforpunishment]

I have had a few sexual relationships in my time. I have never had a problem or complaint.  However, I have gone through two experiences where I feel like I am doing something wrong.  

My ex boyfriend and I had amazing sexual experiences, however there were times where he did not ejaculate.  I asked him if it was me and he, each time, told me no.  I thought it could be because he worked out every single day, or the stress of his job, or the vitamins he was taking.  He said I could be right.  In the end, I did hear that he cheated on me.  So I now think it was either guilt or he wasn't focused on me.

Now, I am with someone new.  And again, he is very physically fit, and works out every single day.  He has a lot of work stress also.  He also takes a lot of vitamins and antioxidants.  We have been sexually active but he has yet to ejaculate.

Is this normal?  Is it me? Do men in there 30's usually experience this?  I need clarification.  Thank you.

[PromisedLand]

Or just give it time.  It is not abnormal for men to not ejaculate..certainly if they "never" ejaculate it might be worth looking into.  I went through a self imposed dry spell of nearly 5 years after a break up (though I frequently masturbated)...eventually was ready for a new relationship and the first few times we had sex I could not ejaculate..of course she thought it was her, I knew it was not..my body was used to my hand and it's "grip" and the real thing was just not the same..fortunately after several sessions the big moment arrived and after all the fireworks and celebrating things were back to normal...

does/did your new love masturbate frequently? Is he taking any meds for pain, depression etc?  those can have an effect as well.

Jim

[Vance2335]

Some men do have a problem ejaculating. Some it's mental and some it's physical. I think you need to talk with your boyfriend and see what is going on with him.