Just need to vent

[KJ325]

I had a d&c on June 4th for a missed miscarriage. I was 14 weeks pregnant so most people already knew I was pregnant. I thought I was starting to feel a little bit better emotionally but this past week has been awful.  We went to a barbecue this past weekend and there were two sets of twins there and a newborn baby. I also work with a girl who is pregnant and our due dates were just days apart. Yesterday she found out the sex of the baby and while I was happy for her I couldn't help feeling upset and a little bit angry. Then today I got two pieces of mail for "the expectant mother". I just feel like I'm surrounded by constant reminders of my miscarriage. I've tried really hard to move on but it is so hard.  I  feel like this is the only place that I can talk about it because my best friend had a baby about a week after my miscarriage and my other best friend is expecting and my husband listens but it just doesn't help.I know with time it will get better... but I just needed to vent:)

[adgal]

I know how you feel. I just had my third m/c and it seem like everywhere I look someone is either pregnant, has a newborn, or whatever.  I went into a very bad depression for a bit, and it was so hard to try to pull myself out of it.

Somehow it does get better.  I don't think it ever goes away, but it does get easier.  We are here for you, and I can tell you that I get so much strength from this forum.  There are so many women who have experienced this horrible situation, and gone on to have perfectly healthy beautiful babies.  You will too.  Keep the faith, and hang in there.  I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

[KJ325]

This was my first m/c. I can't even imagine what it would be like to have this happen multiple times. I was 14 weeks pregnant with our first when they told me my baby didn't have a heartbeat. I had been two weeks earlier and heard the heartbeat clear as day. So after hearing the heartbeat and then being past the first trimester I never imagined that this could happen. I just finished my first AF last week though and I plan to wait one more cycle and then we'll see about trying again. Thank you to everyone who has been so kind. This forum really has helped me tremondously!

[waiting21]

I am sorry for you all who have had to go through this.  It can be so hard to see pregnant women, especially those we are close with since you want to be happy for them, but it is hard to be.  It is really hard to work with someone who is pregnant and you have to see the woman every day.  And, husbands mean well, and they try, but I think they just don't understand like women who have been through it.  It is good to vent on here.

I had my m/c in October, and I am still dealing with it.  I have not be able to TTC.  I have had friends get pregnant and give birth in the amount of time I have been waiting, and many other friend's births and pregnancies.  I just keep trying to stay positive and realize that I am on my way every day to getting closer.  And when the time comes it will be all worth the wait.

KJ325-I am so sorry that you have gone through this 3 times.  Is the doctor going to look into what might be happening?  

[susi1976]

hi there. I am very sorry for what happened to you.
i miscarriage as well though I was only 6 weeks so only my close relatives knew but I suppose its normal the feelings you are having.
I allways get very sad when i see pregnant woman in the street and I feel its unfair that I have to go through but i realise since I join this forum that many woman go through this pain and the only thing that heal the pain its the time. I hope you the best and I am sure you will be expecting a baby soon. have hope.
you will see
take care

[Kimmy9093]

I'm right there with both ya ladies.

Latrice- I'm in the 1st 2 wks after the D&E, and I AM A WRECK.

Although I had accepted my missed m/c when I saw my 1st u/s 3wks ago. After my D&E last Mon, I've been SO emotional thinking about ALL the things I'm going to be missing. I'm so mad at myself for starting to let myself actually believe I would make it to the end. I REALLY thought this 3rd time was the "charm". I started progesterone for the first time, and thought it was my miracle. I had made it to 7wks without ANY blood, thought I was home-free! Little did I know, the baby had died, but the darn progesterone suppositories were actually keeping me pregnant, and from bleeding & miscarrying naturally. To add insult to injury, I waited as long as I could to get an u/s, cause I didn't want to go in at 6wks and not see anything. So a little after 7wks I go in for my 1st u/s thinking I'm going to see my lil bean w/ a strong HB, and instead no HB, no pole, no nothing.

I'm very much "the glass is half full", but these days, it's taking EVERYTHING in my power to stay +. I keep going back & forth. One minute I'm pos, the next min I feel neg. My DR gave me xanax, and I really didn't understand why at first, but as much as I'm not a pill popper, I have taken a couple when I need to relax. They really just put me to sleep.

There's a small part of me that doesn't want to get prego, cause I will be a COMPLETE mess if/when I get prego again. I will probably think I'm miscarrying every darn day. Part of me says, maybe this is God's way of saying it's just not meant to be.

THIS FELT GREAT TO VENT!!!  :)

BIG GIANT HUGS AND STICK BABYDUST TO YA'LL!

[Latrice414]

Hi, i am so sorry for your loss and what you are goiing threw.  I had a missed m/c june 12th, two days after my 32 bday, i was 10w 3days but u/s showed baby was 10 weeks so i was really upset like what did i do in three days to harm my baby. I had d&c on june 17th. I got to have a burial service july 10th, set up threw the hospital where i had the procedure done. It helped me with some closure. I had discontinued everything i signed up for when i was preggo. It hurts to be reminded, it hurts when i see preggo women and new borns. I was at a bday party and my cousin came with her 4 week old baby, i was veery sad,(i wanted to run off with her baby) i had to leave because i could not take it. This is a good place to talk about our experiences, the more i tell my story the more it helps me cope, and friends and family dont understand or want to hear it unless they have been threw it. Time does heal. Even though i am feeling better these days i have my moments when i break down and cry and isolate myself, i just glad its not like the first 2 weeks after the procedure, i was a wreck.

Its normal to feel how you are feeling, i will keep you in my prayers, if you ever need to vent i like reading and i like responding back(its theraputic).

Sending you a big HUGGGGGGG:)