FETUS DISPOSAL

[MsDavenport]

I HAD A MISSED MISCARRIAGE AND THE FETUS CAME OUT YESTERDAY MORNING I WAS 10 WEEKS. MY BABY WAS DEVELOPED RIGHT HAD ARMS HANDS FINGERS LEGS FEET TOES MOUTH EARS. I DON'T WANT TO JUST TOSS IT AWAY..ANY FAMILIAR STORIES...ANY SUGGESTIONS

[Elixis]

How terrible!! Me too I had a MC once and I told the nurse that it was the size of my thumb and I could see the head and such. She said it can't be because it would have been smaller. I knew wtf I saw I held it in my hands!

I find it ridiculous that some people will assume you were imagining it when you looked at it with your bare eyes!!

[wifeypookins]

You didn't go to the dr? I'm askin bc when you have a fetal demise, and its taken care of at the hospital, you had the option to have the baby cremated. That's what my husband and I did with our third, at 5 months pregnant. I'm sorry to hear about your loss. But you mostdef need to go to the dr to be cleaned out. Good luck with tryin again, and I'm sorry to say but the pain won't go away. We are almost a year out from our loss and although were better, the hurt still exsists. My prayers are with you and yours.

[Veronica555]

Your baby is in heaven,  maturing and growing,  understanding that your its mother. I believe in life after death,  and a part of that belief is that when children die,  the continue to live in this srcond realm.  You will always be that babys mom. Get an urn for your babies ashes for memory,  even though his or her soul will always be with you till the very end.

[experienced_33]

I lost twin boys born at 24 wks and we had them cremated. We found a beautiful handmade urn at heavensgain.com because we felt the same way that you do. We couldn't stand the thought of our babies being 'disposed' of :( I am so sorry for your loss.

[aubsivy]

I lost my first pregnancy at 10w it was the size.of a toonie and in the toilet in it's little sac. So I flushed it? I wasn't about to pick it out and open it up and look at it.. there was nothing I could do. At That stage of the game it's like a big blood clot, if you take it to the doc they will through it in the trash.

[brooke_13]

I'm very sorry for your loss. I agree about not taking it to a doctor or the hospital. A friend of mine had a miscarriage at twelve weeks in a hospital and they just threw her little fetus away also. I had a miscarriage around 14 weeks four years ago and I buried the fetus under a tree, beside a little waterfall. I would burying it in a place you can always go back to :)

[Amy1830]

Oh wow. I am so so sorry that you had to go thru that! My heart aches for you :( I would bury the baby. So sad :(

[sbindert]

I had a miscarriage around the same time frame. I actually brought it with me to the er (I didn't know I was pregnant, but I knew I needed a rhogam shot) and the lady just threw it in the trash!!! I was so disgusted with her. She also said, "well, we can't confirm that you were pregnant but we will give you the shot anyway" what do you mean you can't confirm it? I have the poor baby as proof! Sorry, first time ranting about it. But just don't take it anywhere like a doctor that you don't know, they may be very insensitive.

[SarahThomas786]

I am so sorry to hear sweetheart. Have you thought of making a little box and perhaps burying him/her? If you live in a building/condo maybe ask a family member to use a spot in their yard to do so. Make a little monument for the burial spot. Just a thought. I hope you are getting all the support and love you deserve through this difficult time. *hugs

[abbyjacks]

I am so sorry for your for  loss.if it were me I wouldn't throw it away either. I would have it cremated and they can make it into a diamond so u can have it forever.that's just my suggestion.