Finding Peace on October 15th, National Pregnancy Loss Awareness

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To all of those who have experienced a miscarriage...thought this would be something for you.  It's a Youtube video to raise awareness of Pregnancy Loss remembrance day.  

It's a tear-jerker, and I will tell you, my loss was in February and it still made me cry.  It is beautiful though.  If you decide not to watch it, please consider lighting a candle for your little ones on October 15th at 7pm your time. If you have been struggling to find a way to memorialize your baby (babies) then this would be a nice way you could remember them and share a moment of peace with your family.  

Many areas also hold memorial walks throughout the month of October... If any of you haven't checked out these resources, they have been helpful to me and I have just recently discovered them.

www.nationalshare.org

www.october15th.com
www.rememberingourbabies.net

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iSYvT-Qv_5w

"Sometimes love is for a moment, Sometimes love is for a lifetime, Sometimes a moment is a lifetime" -unknown

DMarie919 · Answer

I made my candle.  I bought a hurricane type glass vase and filled with white sparkly sand, white votive, and I put blue and pink ribbon around the vase.  I also found little charms with tiny baby feet on them to put with the ribbon.  I think they turned out nice.  I made one for me and one for my mom.  
My mom has been wearing a pin and my dad has been wearing the silicone bracelet.  It's great to know I have their support.  It makes me feel like my baby was important to them as well and they have not forgotten...

Princessa745 · Answer

Thank you!! I will be lighting a candle for my little angel. I am looking at the site now. thanks again.

smr08 · Answer

Dana, I bought my own candle to. I was going to get one from remembering our babies but I was to late. I do agree with annaleesmom, you have to watch. people will try to make a buck any way. If you decide to purchase an item, research the site as much as possible, find out where the proceeds go. I did that with ROB and feel comfortable with them.

annaleesmom · Answer

I think that buying something to remember our loved one is wonderful, but....  
Just be careful.  There is so much evil out there just trying to make a buck off us. 
however,  If anyone talks to my boyfriend I would love a pandora bracelette with a charm!  HAHAHA  Seriously, a rememberance is nice, just be wary of who you buy it from.

DMarie919 · Answer

I bought my own candle....I guess to an extent you could feel that way..I think some of the items are overpriced.  But there are other things you can do to memorialize your baby like planting a tree in their memory or bulbs for flowers, etc.

Some people like to have a tangible object to help remember the one they lost, and if it's right for them then I don't think it's a bad thing.  They have small pins or bracelets that aren't expensive.  I bought a ring at a jewelry store with the baby's birthstone...so it wasn't off a miscarriage site but it will help me always keep the baby close in my heart...

annaleesmom · Answer

lighting a candle is nice....

Is it just me or does it seem like selling candles for $5.00 is wrong???  I googled miscarriages looking for peace.  I found a couple of sights selling various items as memorials.  How can you not see that those are just people preying on our losses.  
those are vultures who are trying to make money off of grieving women.  

THIS IS WRONG!!!!  yes, I was shouting.

leon0409 · Answer

Thank you for that information. We all need a special day to remember uour little angels. I will never forget.

smr08 · Answer

Dana, it is a wonderful site, I just received an e-mail from Robyn, they are selling candles for $5 to light on the 15th. They have such beautiful gifts there for all of us to remember our babies. I'm glad you posted the site here. I will be lighting my candle in memory of my beautiful, precious baby boy Salvatore Mark. Hugs to you....Lori

Victoria01 · Answer

I think that site is wonderful. Thank you for bringing it to our attention. I will definitely be lighting a candle for my little angel and everyone else's.

DMarie919 · Answer

You are most welcome...it's funny that i didn't find the info until recently... I really could have used it sooner!!  I had already bought a ring with the baby's birthstone before i saw the sites but I liked many of the items on this site as well.  Another site is www.birthdesigns.com.  It has a miscarriage/loss section.  

Many times throughout this experience I think that I have used ttc to "cover up" the miscarriage...like if I can get pg again I can just skip over the fact that it happened.  But it did, and I realized I needed to take the time to grieve the loss and remember the baby.

anxiouslywaiting910 · Answer

This is GREAT Dana thanks for the information..I was looking at several different things to remember our angel..i'm still undecided but I am thinking about a ring because thats something I could wear all the time.  I will definately be lighting my candle. Kudo's for finding this info!!