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1616253 tn?1299253179


good afternoon ladies I just needed to vent and ask your advice. Lately I've been feeling well JEALOUS after seeing some of the girls who went to bootcamp with me who are now pregnant one of which I attended a baby shower for, a month after my MC. Is this a normal feeling to have or am I just being a baby. HELP. THANKS AGAIN FOR YOUR ADVICE
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1293887 tn?1332702847
Don't worry all of those feelings are completely normal especially after a miscarriage.  You are so brave to go to a baby shower because after mine I refused to go to my friend''s baby shower because I knew I wouldn't be able to cope.  You are not being a baby, try not to expect too much from yourself.
1616253 tn?1299253179
i just felt so angry sitting there i just had to detach myself from the shower i could feel myself want to cry when she started guessing the sex of the baby and opening gifts it was hard not to mention i didnt agree with the reason she got pregnant anyways but im now trying again so hopefully this is my month
1440321 tn?1326751428
After my miscarriage I had to keep going back to the OBGYN to make sure everything was in working order. I had to walk past toddlers and I was surrounded by baby bumps. I mentally punched a wall (and sometimes still do) when I see 15 year olds and 40+ year olds happily stroking their tummies and cooing at their newborns. Its hard to get over such a loss but the feelings do fade and you have to learn not to blame yourself, but also not to blame anyone else. Things happen and sometimes there really is just no reason for them. But there is always a tomorrow and even if there is nothing else you can move forward. I'm so sorry for your loss and I completely understand. I MC on Sep 10, 2010 and I still carry the emptiness in my stomach and in my heart.
1616253 tn?1299253179
Thank you very much for your kind words
Avatar universal
Oh wow I know that feeling, my cousin and almost all my friends are pregnant or have just had kids! I just lost my second baby in a row and it makes me so mad almost at every pregnant person I see, or person with a little baby. Especialy at my cousin who does drugs and is pregnant. But to help with thoes feeling I just look at my husband and tell him "when our baby comes, it will be a very special baby". and it helps out a lot =]
1616253 tn?1299253179
Thank you its just so weird it seemed like every one was pregnant around me and i was the only one not it made me so mad since i didnt agree with some of there reasons like one friend who got pregnant so she didnt have to go on deployment its so unfair i want a baby to start a family with the love of my life the man that i wanna share the rest of my life with and you did it so you didnt have to go on a ship for 9mo HELLO DOES THAT MAKE ANY SINCE
1428239 tn?1333457053
It is normal for sure..

Ill never forgot the moment, my husband and I were walking out of the hospital after we just got the confirmation that my pregnancy was in deed a blighted ovum.....  We exited the building behind a happy couple bringing their new born home for the first time...  To me, it felt so cruel.  
Avatar universal
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage last year. 2 weeks after my d & c I hosted baby shower for my best friend. It was awful. I hardly remember that day because I was so overcome with grief. Thank goodness I have a wonderful family who helped me with the shower. I was so jealous of pregnant women! It seems liked they were everywhere. It hurt a lot to see my best friend pregnant. I know she wanted to help me in any way she could, but she just had no idea how. I had to keep some distance from her for a while,which now makes me kind of sad, but I just had to survive.  Time will make this easier. You will probably always be sad when you think about you're miscarriage, but it won't be the only thing you think about one day. It will get easier, and hopefully you'll be pregnant again soon. I signed up for cake decorating classes and they saved my life. Any time I started getting upset about my miscarriage I would start planning my next cake. I know it sounds silly, but it got me through it. Good luck and remember you're not alone!
1616253 tn?1299253179
Thank you again for your advice I'm getting there just one day at a time I'm glad that we did decide to try again bcuz now I'm 9 days late so I'm keeping my fingers crossed we both are  I wish you ladies the best of luck at either expanding or starting your family
1752977 tn?1418221796
I am in the same boat, I've had 3 miscarriages in the last year. Well 2 miscarriages and a chemical pregnancy. I find myself right now making excuses not to attend my best friends baby shower. I have so much jealousy and anger. My counselor told me that's comopletely normal and not to feel bad about it. Healing takes time and everyone is different. I just hate that I look at some girls out there that are pregnant and don't deserve to be. Then all these wonderful girls on here that just want a baby so bad. I wish you all the best of luck in TTC. Xoxoxo best wishes
Avatar universal
Good luck girly
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