Miscarriage

[TatiB0413]

I went in for an ultrasound on 10/22/16 I was told that they could see a gestational sac and it was empty, said it measured around 6.3 I assumed that meant mm? I was told I would most likely miscarry. When I had my initial blood test to confirm pregnancy my hcg was 13,496, I had a blood draw the day of my ultrasound and levels had dropped to 7,000. I had a second blood draw 2 days later and hcg dropped to 6,000. I have also had some brown discharge sorry tmi, I’ve already accepted the worst, but was wondering if there is any reason why I should be hopeful?

[rach301]

I am very sorry for your loss. I also had 2 missed miscarriages, and it's a painful experience. Wishing you lots of luck and happiness for a future pregnancy. Life can be cruel sometimes, but you will get through this. Keep yourself busy and try your best to feel positive towards a 2nd pregnancy. It's not easy I know, but being too negative and scared, will cause you additional stress, that you certainly don't need when your expecting. Wish u luck and take care. X

[TatiB0413]

thank you so much for the support, it means so much. I've been trying to give myself time to heal, but we're ready to try again. I don't have regular periods, I haven't had a period on my own in about 2 years, I have to take progesterone to produce a period. do you know if me bleeding from a miscarriage would count as a period? I'm hoping that from this horrible experience that there still may be some light at the end of the tunnel. I've been hoping this will make my cycles get back on track, not sure if this is just wishful thinking or if someone's heard of this happening.

[mablemoose]

Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry.. :( I know it's horrible. It will hurt (emotionally) for awhile, just know you're not alone, there are so so many women who have been through and are going through exactly what you are right now.:( I hope you're surrounded by those who love you and can support you right now, because you definitely need and deserve it. Look into those groups on Facebook I told you about in my previous comment, they're all beautiful, lovely, supportive, compassionate women who will help, I promise. <3 Sending my love to you.x

[mablemoose]

Speak to your doctor about trying again. Sometimes they want you to wait until your next cycle, sometimes they want you to wait 3 months. And sometimes they don't mind if you wait at all.. When I had mine my doctor said I could start trying right away (which I did), it took 4 months, but I did get pregnant, and she is 100% healthy. There's three really great groups on Facebook for people in your situation 1 is called "Miscarriage and pregnancy loss" you can't talk about ttc there, but you can talk about your loss. 2. I called "ttc after loss" which is all about ttc after loss. 3. Is called "Pregnancy after loss" which is a great group to hear success stories, and they will also be so so supportive when you do conceive again. I hope you're doing alright. I know you probably don't feel it, but the pain you feel in your heart will ease with time.x

[TatiB0413]

I fully miscarried Friday afternoon, I was sitting in the middle of work when it happened it was the most horrific and painful experience, I've never experienced so much physical pain it def wasn't mild cramping

[TatiB0413]

and the emotional pain is more than I can bare

[mablemoose]

Wow.. 5 years, that's such a long time. I can't even imagine. :( You know your more fertile post miscarriage? Maybe you'll get pregnant soon after the process of misscarrying is over. I'm very hopeful for you. After all you've been through, you definitely deserve a happy healthy baby. ❤

[TatiB0413]

thank you so much, I appreciate that, I wasn't aware your more fertile after miscarriage, I have heard a lot of stories of woman getting pregnant rather quickly, I just feel like my hcg is dropping so slowly, so idk when my body will be ready to try again

[hailere]

I had a miscairrage in late february this year and got pregnant again soon after. All I can say is that if you're trying to conceive don't let the fear of another miscairrage ruin any future pregnancy. A lot of times they happen at no fault of your own and your odds of having 2 are slim. I am now 33weeks with a healthy baby girl and appreciate the experience so much more! I wish you the best of luck, I know how hard it can be, but don't lose hope! I'll keep you in my thoughts.

[TatiB0413]

That is exactly how I'm feeling, I feel like if I were to get pregnant again I should just keep it to myself until I'm sure everything is progressing properly, my fiancé isn't taking it well and I think next time I should try to spare him any pain

[mablemoose]

I'm so sorry to hear all that you've gone through. :( I know this probably isn't what you want to hear but, it is very common to loose your first to miscarriage, (apparently 30%). I know how heartbroken you must feel right now, but also, having one miscarriage doesn't make you anymore likely to have another than someone who's never had a miscarriage. I found these facts kind of comforting in a strange way.. I've gone from loosing my first to having a happy healthy 2 year old daughter, and I'm pregnant again. I hope all goes well for you in any future pregnancies. xx

[TatiB0413]

it's just been so frustrating because we've ttc for 5 years, we've watched all of our friends and relatives have kids and we finally felt like it was our turn, I don't have periods so not only do I have to take medication to induce a period, but I also have to take pills to help me ovulate. it's such a time consuming process. thank you for the support it is much appreciated hearing others success stories gives me hope

[Ladylove1339]

Wow im so sorry for your lost next time you want to try make sure you keep checking up on it in the beginning. I had one last month and pregnant again i'm scared but i'm praying for the best. Good luck

[theboysmommy23]

Sorry to hear that hope all is well !!!

[Ladylove1339]

Try asking the doctor is there anyway they can save the baby. If your hcg is still a little high how can they not try to help.

[TatiB0413]

unfortunately none of the people in my OB'S office said anything positive, I had one nurse tell me to just wait till I bleed it out, they didn't offer to help me in anyway they just told me to come back in two weeks to make sure there wasn't anything left over, I was completely devestated.

[mablemoose]

I'm so sorry for your loss. :( My first pregnancy was a miscarriage. It's a completely horrible thing to go though. I hope you have a good support network, I know I needed one when I lost my baby. If you're having brown spotting now, the rest should come soon.x

[TatiB0413]

This was also my first pregnancy, the NPwas in such a hurry to leave the room when she saw my empty sac that she didn't bother to give me any info on what I should expect. thank you for the information

[ahardwick95]

This is my second pregnancy and I hope my first child. I know the emotional pain you're going through. I do also know there is a support group type page on Facebook.
I'm sorry about your loss.

[ahardwick95]

This is my second pregnancy and I hope my first child. I know the emotional pain you're going through. I do also know there is a support group type page on Facebook.
I'm sorry about your loss.

[TatiB0413]

thank you for the suggestion, I'm going to look into the support group, good luck on your bundle of joy

[TatiB0413]

Ok, thank you so much for the feedback