My baby is gone

[Breanna89]

Why do I feel so angry, sad, & depressed? I can't shake it off. I'm so lost & confused. I had a miscarriage 2months ago.

[DMarie919]

I am so sorry you are feeling this way.  I also had a m/c in February and have never felt so depressed and angry in my life.  All I can tell you is that over time, it will hurt a little less.  I didn't believe it when other people told me that either but it will.  I have found talking about it helps too.  Try not to bottle it up inside.  Perhaps counselling will help....it's something I should probably look into too...  
Theres not a day that passes that I don't think about it.  I don't know if I will ever be the same....  It's okay to express how you feel...  Take care...

[LUV__ME]

I am sorry for your lost too


i know what you're going through. And seems like you can't find the answer to why this happened to you.

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm sorry for your loss. I was the woman who just blocked it all out. I have had 6 m/cs and one was a d and e at 19 wks. I just blocked it out until my last m/c in sept of last yr I was 5 1/2 wks and I couldn't do it anymore I just couldn't understand why it had to happen. I was on a rollercoaster ride one day the pg is progressing the next day it's not. I went in for my 1st app with my obgyn after 2 vistits to the er and he said everything was fine and nope 2 days later I lost the baby in the er. It was a nightmare. I couldn't put my pain away anymore I came on this website and talked to close friends. All the losses I had experienced I decided it was time to seek some help. I have a therapist who I talk to about my pain and grief and how to better manage it. I couldn't understand I had 3 beautiful children why couldn't I have another baby or everytime I look at my middle baby I know I lost her twin. It's hard. As time goes on you learn to let go of the anger. You learn to not blame yourself or beat yourself up. In time you will know what you need to do. Remember everyone is different and every siutation is different. Some women find closure and some can't beyond the pain and can't find it as quickly. Give your body and mind some time to heal. Suffering a miscarriage is a very very painful experience with no manual given to you or a handbook. We are left to find our answers and sometimes we dont' know where to start. Well you picked a good start you posted here. This is a whonderful and supportive forum where hopefully you can relate to some of our stories. Just know you are not alone. Take care and best wishes to you. I hope you feel better soon. I'm here if you need to talk.

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[leighanne143]

i am very sorry for your loss.  after having 2 miscarriages within a 5 month span myself, i know exactly how you feel.  i have to be honest and let you know that if you are still feeling this way in a few weeks, you should go and talk to someone.  i actually went and saw a therapist after my second loss cause i was so angry and seeingother women pregnant infuritated me.  it really helped having my therpaist to alk to and work throguh these feelings.  she was able to validate me and was there to listen plus help work through the stages of grief.  you will honestly always think of your mc and wonder what could have been but at some point you have to let go of the anger and move forward so you can focus on all the good things to some.

i really believe in if you project good things, good things happen to you.  i had 2 mc's and was so angry and once i let go of the  anger, i got pregnant again and 9 weeks ago i gave birth to my handsome son.

[smr08]

I'm so sorry for your loss. What your feeling is normal, you just lost a part of you and your emotions are all over the place. It takes some people longer than others to deal with their grief. I lost my son in October and I still feel it and probably always will. I found that talking about it to people who have been through it has helped a great deal. How far along were you? Did you have a D&C or natural? In time you learn to deal with the pain and your emotions will fall into place. I wish you the best, and hope your healing begins soon.....................Lori