Pregnant again and trouble coping...

[marymoonu]

I had a m/c on May 26th, got pregnant again immediately, and will be 12 weeks pregnant tomorrow.  I began dealing with some brown bleeding at 9 weeks, which has continued off and on since then.  Finally, I began with a pretty large bright red bleed late Friday night.  It went on throughout the night and on Saturday, I lost some scary-looking clots.  I thought the worst and suffered through the weekend.

I got in to my doctor yesterday and he checked my cervix, which is fully closed.  He then did an u/s and told me the baby is still viable.  His u/s machine is older, so he sent me down the hall to the u/s tech and her more modern machine.  She looked around and also could not find a cause for the bleed.  She said the baby was very active (she had to try 3 times to get a heart rate because baby was squirming a lot)... Good heart rate, 162.  And measuring 5.29cm CRL, so right on target, actually a couple days ahead.  She and the doctor both said everything looks fine.

For now, I'm just terrified.  Since they didn't find a cause for the bleeding, I don't know if/when it will return, if everything will continue to be okay, etc.  I'm terrified to go to the bathroom... I've been trying just not to look.  I'm really having difficulty dealing with the stress.  The only thing I can do at this point is to try to ignore the pregnancy completely and hope that everything is okay and that I'll feel more comfortable and confident as we get further along.  

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to manage the stress?  I know that being all stressed out myself can only make matters worse...  I just can't help it.  

[crissy578]

Sorry that you are going through this, however I have heard of people bleeding and the baby still being fine and cervix still closed. Just like you they get no explanation of the bleeding either. The only thing I can think of is that maybe you are still having periods. Try not to stress. The important thing is that the baby is doing just fine!

[mjmom69]

That must have been horrible for you! I'm so glad that everything looks fine. I have trouble with stress from time to time and I found that Yoga really helped me. It takes your mind of everything but what you are doing and it really does work. I would suggest taking a class though. It's harder to do at home by yourself. They also teach you breathing techniques you can do at home or anywhere really, that help with stress. I find that even taking a long walk or hike really helps too. I don't think anything will take the stress away completely but little things can help. Take care of yourself and everything will be ok.