Venting: Am I worng to be upset by this?

[Mumita]

So I got my first BFP on 6/03 and we were very happy about it.  I only wanted to tell my immediate family so we told my mom dad and brother and then my inlaws and my husband's siblings.  We really wanted to keep it quiet until 12 weeks to tell everyone else.  So on 6/15 I had a miscarriage and so we told our immediate family about the m/c. and I was fine with it, I cried one day and then I was fine, I accepted it and now I'm ttc again.  
Anyway, I called my dad yesterday and he was at my uncle's house since he was leaving he starts putting everyone on the phone and they're all saying hi and all.  So my cousin (20 year old very immature male) picks up the phone and first thing he says is "Oh hey I'm sorry about the baby!' and I was caught completely off guard and I was like "Oh well its not a big deal, it was very early and I'm fine and we'll just keep trying " And then he's like "Yeah its so sad that you were having a baby and you lost it. And then I said "Yeah well at 4 weeks it was very early so its not a big deal, don't worry about it" and he starts going like "Well you'll get it eventually don't worry you will have a baby someday -yada yada yada" and I finally was like "I gotta go run some errands, I'll talk to you later" and hung up.

1st.  I didn't tell my dad to advertise my personal events specially when I hadn't even told other people that would've been more important to tell it to.  And I told him that I wanted to wait at least til 12 weeks to even tell anyone that I was pregnant.
2. I want to leave the m/c behind, forget about it and keep trying, it really was too early for it even to be a dot on the radar and I didn't even feel pregnant so I just want to move on and keep trying to get pregnant.
3. Its personal between my husband and I and I don't need my idiot cousin who doesn't know anything about marriage, relationships or even having kids to butt in and ask me about it.  Its personal and I don't want to talk about it.

So I called my dad and told him that my m/c was personal and that I told him because he's my dad and I trust him and I love him but that wasn't to be shared with the world! So he's sorry that he said anything but he was like "Its family!" and I said that "Yes its family and they are well intentioned and all but it was personal and I didn't tell you to tell everyone not yet until I knew that everything was fine and it wasn't so why worry the family unnecessarily" So he feels bad and now he says "Well I just wont tell anyone anything about you" and I said "Its not that, it's just that I wanted to wait to tell everyone about my pregnancy until everything was fine."
So anyway, am I wrong to get upset about it? Or am I pregnant again and I'm getting emotional for no reason?

[Latrice414]

I would be upset to.  I only told my immediate family, mom , dad and my siblings.  Before the next day hit, i was getting calls the same day saying congrats and asking all types of questions.  Come to find out, my sister told everyone, i was pissed, so i wont be telling her anything, well i wont tell no one except my fiance of course until the 13th week, maybe even later, like when i send out baby shower invitations, lol, i no, thats a little mean.

You have a right to be upset mumita.  I hope you get a BFP and i hope we all get to be 2009 mommies:)

[leighanne143]

well i wish you the best of luck and i am keeping my fingers crossed.  i know exactly how you feel since i had 2 MC's.  i am so scared with this current pregnancy that it sometimes takes the joy out of being pregnant but i can not let it make me feel that way.  i bet you will get a BFP very soon.  

[lazenza]

My fingers are crossed, I really hope you are pregnant.  I have been having unprotected intercourse since my m/c, the hardest part is not really knowing how our body's works after m/c, whether you keep to your normal cycle or whether your period don't come for weeks!

[Mumita]

Well I don't have any symptoms but I've been bd'ing frequently around O so Maybe BIG MAybe that I could be pregnant.  However, I am getting ultra-****-ed-off at anything and grouchy for no reason, enough for my husband to complain about it.  So my grouchyness is what has me wondering....

[Mumita]

I just don't want to make a big deal out of it.  People feel differently about it and I truly understand, I just don't feel much about it besides the fact that it s-ucks to have to try again to get pregnant. It was very very early in my pregnancy that I wasn't even able to see it in a u/s so to me its not a big deal its natural.
The thing is, if it was my aunt asking, I wouldn't mind so much but I don't want to be talking about a miscarriage to my immature little cousin, its not someone I would share it with.
Keyan, I guess you are right that your parents want to share it with THEIR immediate family and maybe I shouldn't get upset about it since it was good intentions and all BUT the last one I would want to have a conversation about it is My little cousin Danny!

[leighanne143]

i would be upset too.  after my 2nd MC, and now being pregnant again, my mother is not even telling my father til we make it past the 12 week mark cause it is heart breaking and you do not need the world to know.  yes you do need supports but you do not need someone who has no clue talking to you about it.

do you think you are pregnant again?  when do you plan on testing?

[Keyan]

It is normal to get upset, especially when you just want to continue on and not think about it anymore...when you say it was not a big deal, probably you just are saying it to help you ease the situation, to keep you from hurting...and your cousin just remind it to you...I know how people and family make comments that do hurt and bother, but I truely beleive they don't mean to harm, in their minds all they are trying to say is that they care about you and that they feel sad you had to go thru that experience.... About your dad, well family is like that, you just share your situation w/ your immediate family (meaning dad mom etc.) and they want to share it w/ their immeadiate family..we are like that...People should respect our decisions w/ out asking or knowing why, unfortunately, sometimes they won't do as you say, until they completly understand the reason why...I would just tell you dad, that you don't want people to know about your m/c because you are ready to move on and not make a big deal about it, and if they know, all they will do, is to try to talk about it and you don't want that. AND you can also be pregnant and ARE getting emotional!!! Dios quiera y asi sea!

[holly_b]

No! You have every right to be upset. You specifically requested that you did not want anyone else to know until 12 weeks and your father went against your wishes regardless if these people are family or not. Miscarriages are difficult enough without having your immature cousin bring it up in this insensitive manner (although I'm sure his intentions were good). I think you handled the situation with your Dad very well, you have done NOTHING wrong! And Congrats if you are pregnant again!