WELCOME TO THE MISCARRIAGE COMMUNITY!

[ArmyPrincess819]

                                                           WELCOME

This is a community full of support and understanding for those who are experiencing past or present miscarriage of for those who have loved ones or friends who may be experiecing one. Miscarriage is a very painful and emotional time. There are so many unanswered questions that we search to try to find the answers. Sometimes all we need to hear is we are not the only ones. Most of us in this community have experienced a miscarriage. That has helped this community to provide understanding and compassion to anyone who comes along. This is a safe forum where opinions may be heard and not judged. We always welcome new posts and new friends. I hope your experience in this community will be a great one. Please feel free to join everyone is welcome!

Sincerely,
Your Community Leader

[Annalise10910]

Hi I'm new to this site, and must say found it very helpfull. I'm 24 years old, and Just went through a missed miscarriage, had a D & C last wk. Can't get over the pain. I' ve been married for 8 months and this was our first child. The only thing going through my mind is if I will ever be able to have any children :(

[shellesbelles]

Hi everyone. This is my first pregnancy/miscarriage. I went to the ER on Mother's Day, 10 days after getting BFP. I started cramping and spotting 1 day prior and figured I would go. I had an U/S and the Tech said she didn't see anything except a cyst on my right ovary (which I found out later helps the pregnancy and is on the ovary that released the egg) She said I could possibly be earlier than I thought. (Which confused me more because although the pregnancy was a total surprise, I only BD 1 time that month and I am regular 28 days, so when I used calculator I actually BD on my ovulation date! I knew the time conception occurred could throw everything off) Well the DR came in and said my hcg was 39 and he doesn't  consider it positive til 50! And he didn't think I was pregnant but since I was "trying" he wouldn't give me pain pills!! He said it was probably the cyst that made my hcg go up. So I worried, became depressed, researched and everything thinking the cyst I had was cancerous. Well needless to say after all the poking and prodding from the ER I bled heavy, bright red blood for 3 days and then the last day I had contractions (which I never had them before but I knew) I timed them apart and they were way stronger than my normal cramps. I never felt that pain before so I ran to the restroom because it felt like a bowel movement too. Well I passed a reddish-blackish and gray slug like clot. Afterward I felt a little better and continued to bleed for a few days. Nothing heavy. So I went to see an OBGYN and he explained some things to me and told me never to go back to that ER because anything above hcg 5 is pregnant. But that my urine test was negative this time and that they didn't need to do a blood test. And that the gray slug clot I saw was the gestation sac. He told me I could expect my cycle to return 4-8 weeks. Then I saw my regular GYN and she explained further saying she's surprised I didn't get ultrasounds and if my period doesn't return that they'll investigate further. She said the cyst didn't hurt the pregnancy and none of my other medical conditions. She gave me a blood test and I'll find out if it's gone back to 0. I want to buy a urine test so badly just to ease my mind or have a glimpse of hope. I just needed to vent, thank you ladies. I researched that NSAIDS can cause miscarriages. I remember taking many of them for a bad tooth and after I got it pulled. I feel so bad because I didn't know about the pain medicine or else I would have taken Tylenol. I didn't know I was pregnant at the time either but ppl say don't feel guilty even though it's apart of grieving. I will ask my DR about NSAIDS when I find out my results. I searched this whole internet for answers each time after the DR visit when I forgot to ask them or needed assurance. Hopefully this answers someone's question out there. =)

*An Angel in the book of life wrote down our baby's birth, and whispered as she closed the book; "Too beautiful for earth."

[Lu1791]

Went for our dating scan and found out we had miscarried at 11 weeks 4 days...that was 2 weeks today, had d&c 1 week 1 day ago. The memory of seeing a large gestational scan and a baby with no heartbeat will always haunt me, It's so hard to let go knowing how close we came to the end of the first trimester. We've started trying again but im not sure whether it's too soon for my body? Bled after the d&c for a few days, it started to go brown (old blood i guess), have been trying and now have started bleeding again with clots, What does everyone think? Too soon after the d&c op? :/. Our little family would be perfect if we could just have what we want and have wanted for a long time :(
Replies would be amazing!
xx

[EAM623]

I'm so glad I found this forum. I am going through my 2nd m/c right now, and have never felt so alone and awful. I feel like no one cares, but really they just can't understand what this feels like. I feel like a failure as a woman and a daughter, even though I know that is crazy. I just want to give a baby to my husband and to my parents, and I can' t seem to do that. I could barely handle the first loss in December (at 10 weeks), and so I feel like I don't know what to do now with the 2nd one (found at at 10 weeks, but the baby was only 6). I can't go through this again and have to act like I am fine on the outside, when on the inside I am a complete train wreck. I want my 2 babies back. That's all I want. My first due date is coming up in June, and I know it's going to kill me.... Thank you for offering a place of support where people DO understand what this feels like!

[ann33081]

I found out I was pregnant the day after my birthday. I noticed a little spotting and thought it was normal but then I started having cramping. The bleeding was getting worse. A week in a half later, I was at work and I passed out. I went to the ER and was told that I had a miscarriage. I was almost 5 weeks along. I'm still noticing that I'm getting bad headache and dizziness now. I'm going to the doctor today to see if everything is ok. I lost a daughter when I was 39 weeks pregnany that was a stillborn. My husband and I are hoping to have another baby.

[moni21]

As of today I would be 9 weeks pregnant, but unfortunately on Monday I learned that my baby no longer has a heartbeat. I am devastated. I just heard and saw the heartbeat two weeks ago and now there isn't one.  My poor baby is still in me, but no longer living. I think that is one of the hardest realizations ever. How can I have this being in me, yet not be able to provide it with life. I feel as though I must have done something wrong, but no matter how much I rack my brain I can't think of a single thing. I feel cheated and have been asking why. I know there aren't answers, but I still would like to know. This has been very hard for me and my husband. We both have wanted another baby for so long. Last night was really bad for us. My boys went to sleep and my hubby and I just held each other and cried. When will the pain stop.

I may have to schedule a d & c and the thought of that scares me and makes me uneasy. How can I just willing get rid of my precious baby? How do you get past it? I really need to know that what I'm feeling is ok and that I can make it through.