Why would I have 2 miscarriages in a row?

[Lisa9267]

I am 38 years old and just had my 2nd miscarriage. In fact, I haven't even had it yet. I went to the doctor 2 days ago to hear the baby's heartbeat. I was suppose to be 12 weeks pregnant. The doctor could not find a heart beat. The ultrasound showed the baby died at 6 weeks 4 days. I am devastated. I either have to wait for nature to take its course and my body to expel the pregnancy or I have to have a DNC. I had another miscarriage 6 months ago. That one happened right away, at 4 1/2 weeks. I do have one healthy daughter. I got pregnant with her when I was 35 and gave birth at 36. I can't help but wonder are my eggs to old now? I'm not sure. I really would like just one more child so my daughter will have a sibling but I'm afraid I'm never going to be able to have a baby again or that something will be wrong with the baby.

[YvetteY]

I am very sorry about your miscarriages.  I know this is very hard, devastating and heart breaking, plus a number of many other adjectives!!  It sounds like you weren't expecting this to happen and I know that it probably was a huge shock.  So I am sorry you are going through this!!!!

I'm sure you're aware that fertility declinces in your 30s and after 35 it's a lot harder to get pregnant and stay pregnant.  You just have to keep trying.  Yes you are older and yes your eggs are older and this is going to be a challenge, but you will get a good egg if you keep at it!  I know this is shocking but after you read more about getting pregnant in your 30s and 40s you will see that it's just harder than in your 20s.  Unfortunately there becomes an issue age and that's egg quality which translates to embryo quality.  You didn't miscarry because of anything you did.  And you are by no means at this point at the end of your rope!  Just keep at it!!!  I started trying to get pregnant at 40 and had 5 miscarriages.  I'm sure due to my age.  But you've got a couple of good years left!!

[natalie910]

I am so sorry for your losses. I'm 38 as well, I recently had a m/c I was supposed to be 16 weeks along but when I went to my regular appt, they found no heart beat, our baby lost life at 12w5d. I had a natural m/c which was induced in the hospital. I know what you are feeling though. As I read your post and I've read similar ones, I get scared. Then, I become hopeful again. There are so many women on here in their 40's that are pg with healthy babies, we can't look at statistics. If you want another baby then I would talk to your dr. Maybe you could ask him/her to run a few tests to make sure there is nothing physically preventing you from carrying full term. Sometimes a dr will do blood work or other testing if you express your concerns. Either way, try not to worry about it too much, you're going through enough right now. I will keep you in my prayers, that all will go well and you will find some answers.

[smr08]

Lisa, I'm sorry for your losses. I have had 3, an early m/c, an ectopic, and most recently lost a son at almost 5 months along. I have also had those feelings and asked myself the same questions. I am 41 and ttc again. I'm trying to stay as positive as I can, but with each af I begin to give up and then I ask myself "how bad do you want this?" I know the answer to that question :) So I don't give up. Stay positive, don't give up and you will have your BFP soon! I wish you the best......Lori

[Prayerful2528]

First allow me to tell you how sorry I am about your miscarriages.  I can relate to what you are going through.   I myself had two miscarriages as well.  One in Feb of 08, and the other in Nov of 08.  I am now pregnant, and can't tell you how scare I am of miscarrying again.  However, I am keeping a good attitude knowing that all things are in God's hand.  I will not allow age to interfer with my hopes and dreams.  I have a saying that I always use, and that is if I am not as old as Sarah then I have a chance.  Because at her old age God blessed her with a child. God don't love Sarah no more then he love us.  Hold on to your faith, and things will work out in its timing.    I will keep you in my prayers.  Sending hugs your way...

Yolanda