dealing with having a still birth, has anyone ever had one?

[bootyboo1109]

I just gave birth to my son at 20 weeks, June 3rd he was a still born. I'm having a hard time dealing with it I don't know what to do.

[willtowin160]

I went into preterm labor at 21 weeks last December. It was really hard because he was born alive and healthy, but did not make it because my body went into labor so early. I went through periods of depression, mourning, weight gain, insomnia and loneliness. I know it is hard and I feel your pain and I am so sorry you had to go through this. Believe me when I say it will get easier. It's still hard for me at times, but I feel everything happens for a reason and am holding on to the positives. I pray that you find strength and peace throughout this difficult situation.

[bootyboo1109]

Thank you

[mum2be24]

Im so sorry for your loss. I cant even imagine the pain you must be feeling.  Big hugs to you!

[bootyboo1109]

Thank you very much

[xoxo_fenny]

I'm so sad and  sorry to hear you guys stories y'all are on my prayers. It must be very hard.

[maw4389]

I had a stillborn in 2013 at 8 months pregnant due to Trisomy 18. It's hard at first but it will slowly get easier...

[bootyboo1109]

I had a blood clot under my placenta that pushed my placenta away from the uterus wall and caused me to go into labor

[pregwith5th786]

I'm so sorry for your loss hun :(
I know exactly how u feel. Iv also delivered a still born at 38 weeks it was so devastating for me and my family. I totally lost interest in everything.
I know its really hard for u at this time but try to stay around some1 N keep yourself busy.
If u Dont mind me asking what was the cause it?

[Skyesmummy2010]

I had my son at 20 weeks in February last year, sadly he too was born sleeping (he died due to a virus called Parvovirus, caused my waters to break at 18 weeks and he held on till 20+3 but he couldn't go any longer without my waters).

I am very very sorry to hear of your loss. It is the most excruciating pain in the world. We are a year and a half on and it hasn't got any easier, but you do learn to live and cope with it.

The ways that we helped grieve was to keep him a massive part of our family, we have his name on a plaque on the wall, his funeral song lyrics are framed and up in my daughters room, and we talk about him and his name is mentioned are bout the time, this helps me so much because he's still with us and it's still very real. We have a baby box that has his little belongings from the hospital in.

The support that your friends and family are giving you right now, accept it because this will help you feel like you are not alone, although this is a very lonely place to be.

I remember someone telling me that they laughed a few months down the line and I genuinely never believed I would get to a point where I would every laugh or smile again, but you will.
The pain hasn't gone away and I still miss my little man everyday but I try and live my life in a positive way and try and be happy for him. I keep his memory alive everyday and celebrate the fact that even tho it was a short period of time we were lucky to have our little man.

I really hope my story brings you some comfort, there are a lot of charity's out there that can help and support you further if you want to seek them out (your doctor will be able to tell you which ones). I am so sorry once again, I Really hope you have alot of love and support around you because that is key, but just remember to do whatever you need to do to grieve, everyone grieves differently and it's important that you do what's best for you. Feel free to message me if you ever want to talk. Best wishes in everything.

[FirstBabyMyers]

I'm sorry that you have to go through that. I haven't gone through it but it truly must be hard to go through that. You will be in my prayers