miscarriage at week 16- new here

[shon123]

Hi there,

I am new here. I am week 16 ,almost 17 and the ultra sound showed no heart beat and the beta count was 4400. I am waiting for natural m/c but am not sure this is the right decision to do.  I had 2 c sections in the past due to the fact that my body cannot progress towards labor, and the cervix won't open at all.

I am looking to share experience with preg moms that had situation as mine, m/c in week 16 and did it naturally.

The ultra sound showed that the baby fits 13 week although I  am week 16. Does that means he died week 13 or that he stopped developed week 13 and could die even after?

How long it takes the body to do a natural m/c if I wait ? Can it takes months?

Any info would be more than greatly appreciated.

Thank you so much.

[tinkerbell101]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss and the dilemma you now have. I have had 2 M/C and my last time we had a similar situation to you although my baby was only 14 weeks when we found out it had died. I also have had 2 C sections previously so inducing labour was not an option. I was scared that I would be waiting weeks for the natural M/C to occur and really felt I needed closure so that I could deal with my emotions so opted for the D&C. It went smoothly and I was awake again within an hour. For me it helped as when I woke up I felt I was ready to grieve and deal with the 'loss' rather than the confusing feelings I had when I knew I was still carrying the baby and waiting for the inevitable to happen.

My cycles took a while to regulate afterwards but all seem back to normal now. It has been almost a year since my M/C and we started TTC straight away as I am now 40 and know time is not on my side!

Good luck I hope things go well for you, if you need to talk I am always here.

[usuk]

as far as the baby was concerned, i was told although i was 14 weeks along the baby was only 12. but that the sooner they could get to the tissue the better. since they got some info from my tissue, they said it had not yet begun to decompose. which could mean that growth slowed down but did not stop totally. they felt it was a recent loss not a loss that sat inside me for 2 weeks. that is the main reason i suggested a d&c. so they can collect samples and give you some info. again, good luck and choose what is right for you. i let my second MC pass at home and now i wish i had the tissue tested. live and learn in all of this i guess. xoxoxo

[Jhays84]

I just had a U/S tuesday and the baby didn't have a heart beat at 9.5 weeks, so my dr did a D&C the NEXT day!  A D&C helps prevent scaring! I think having a Natural m/c is cruel to yourself! your going threw enough stress and pain the way it is !!!!

[peterjl]

I am so sorry for your loss.  I, too, lost my baby at 16 weeks.  I have had 3 previous c-sections, so my doctor was worried about inducing labor, but said it was the best choice- to avoid any infection, etc.  I was induced the day after I found out my baby was dead.  Labor and delivery were horrible- I was given Cytotec to induce.  I had to go to surgery after delivering my son because I was not able to pass the placenta.  I am glad I was induced though, as I got to see my baby and hold him after he was delivered.  It was a very difficult experience, but having the time with him was very important to me.  We were able to take pictures for memories as well.  Keep in touch and know that we are always here to help.

[smr08]

Sharon, can you ask to do one of the other options?  If your scared I can't see why your Dr. wouldn't. I had 3 losses but I never had to decide what method to go with, my first was a early m/c, my second was an ectopic and my third I was just at 5 months and was induced. Try not to be scared and just know that if you ever need to talk someone is always willing to listen and try and help. I'm always around, I may not have all the answers but i'm a good listener. keep me posted on this. Take care

Lori

[shon123]

Hi there,

Thank you so much.

Sharon

[shon123]

Hi there,

Yes he did. He suggested 3 options: natural, vaginal pills and d&c. I chose the natural but am not sure was the right one...nothing has happened yet and I am already week 17. That scares me .
Sharon

[shon123]

Hi usuk,

Thank you so much. Did they tell you how can they know when it passed away?

Sharon

[shon123]

Hi Amy,

Thank you so much. It is even harder on week 19, I can imagine what you went through.
I don't know if the d&c is good for me as I had 2 c sections in the past and it scares me even more... did you had a regular labor before?

Sharon

[LadyM84]

i'm really sorry to hear what your going through , i think a d n c would be the best option as awful as it is you wont have to go through the added trauma of giving birth , i'm so sorry i wish you all the best for the future xx

[smr08]

I'm so sorry for your loss and to hear what your going through. Were you given a choice for a natural m/c or a D&C?  With my last loss I was further along and had to deliver him. I would ask your Dr. what he/she thinks would be the best for you. Everyone is different so it's hard to say how long it will take for the m/c to happen, the same for recovery, some womens cycles go back to normal within a month or two and others take much longer. I'm sorry that I can't help much, but I do wish you the best.

[usuk]

so so sorry to hear this has happened. to give you a similar situtation re: timing...my doc detected no hb at 14 weeks and the baby only measured 12. they were able to test the tissue so that means it had not been gone too long. it could be the growth slowed dramatically but it did not pass away in your 13th week. i would suggest a d & c because they can get it everything out, control bleeding and infection,  and do tests if you like to see if it was a chromosomal issue or not. i did do one natural mc but that was only at 8 weeks. one last thing is that it may take a while for your brain to get the signal to bleed, which can prolong the grief for some. but in the end you know what is best for you and i hope you get some comfort as soon as possible.

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm sorry for what you are going through.. I had a d and e at 19 wks but I did not have a natural m/c. I have had 5 natural m/cs 1 of them was at 14 wks while I was pg with my 2nd child. It took my body a few mos to recover but my recovery was more than likely set back due to my still being pg. My first term m/cs usually took me a few mos to recover except for my last one I had in sept of last yr within one month my body was back to normal. It varies from woman to woman. Every pg is different. The further along you are the more trauma on your body is caused. I would def take it easy for a few wks and it may take a few cycles for your body to regulate and get back to normal. I would def have a follow up app with your dr to check and make sure your body is healing etc. I hope you have a very easy recovery I do hope that someone else can share their story and give you some better insight on a 2nd term natural m/c.. I'm here for you if you need to talk. Best wishes to you.....

AP