pregnant month after miscarriage

[abituse]

I recently had a miscarriage on 3/1/2010. I was 5w6d along, and it was incredibly devastating. Especially after having to tell my parents that we were no longer pregnant, after I had just told them the day before. I did not need a D and C at the time, so I continued to have my hcg levels drawn until they were <5. Once my levels were down which was only about 1 week later since they were only 47 in the ER, I was told it was ok to not be as cautious with sex. I reached out to my friends who had miscarriages, who told me your period could come anywhere between 4 and 8 weeks after miscarriage. I am so regular that it was the day that I was suppose to get my period if none of this had happened, and sure enough I had a pos preg test. My doctor drew my hcg levels  and they doubled after 48 hours, and my progesterone levels were on the higher end of normal, so she was happy with that. Now I am 6w3d and there isn't a day where I don't worry like crazy (if I have gas, I worry it's cramps.....I check after I wipe to make sure it's not bright red blood....). I don't have an unltrasound scheduled for a few more weeks, so I just want to know how women get through this period before the ultrasound where every day I worry if I am going to miscarry again. I need some type of outlet where I can express my feelings and concerns, cause I am starting to feel bad for my friends since I send e-mail after e-mail to them! Thanks for your suggestions to get me through the next few weeks before I get to hopefully see the little heartbeat!

[clister1]

I too miscarried ant then got pregnant right away with my second pregnancy, I was constantly worried and more then anything felt like I needed to protect myself and husband from the pain again.  Once I heard a heartbeat and saw a baby growing I felt better.  I hope this has continued to be the case for you.  Each time now that I see the baby, I feel more and more confident.  There have been a few times were I just over thought symptoms and called my doctor and the doctor on call in the office has assured me that they would rather I come in then worry myself at home.  You might express this to your doctor and just knowing you have this option may put you at ease too.  Good Luck.

[rbohl01]

Congratulations I am so happy for you. I am glad you saw that little heartbeat. It is something I look forward to experiencing =) Keep me updated on your progress

[abituse]

I went in today to see the doctor since I was having cramping and loss of symptoms. Thankfully the ultrasound tech had a cancelation and was able to do an ultrasound. Turns out we are 6w4d, so about 5 days earlier than I thought. We got to hear and see the heartbeat which made me want to cry! The doc reassured me that my uterus is probably growing and thats why I am having the cramping, she said especially with no bleeding, she is able to reassure me everything is fine. All goes well from here on out, we'll have a little one to bring home Dec. 11.

[abituse]

It's days like today that I cant seem to stop worrying. Days that I am not hungry all the time, or peeing all the time, or my boobs just aren't as sore, makes me feel like my symptoms are going away and that  maybe things aren't going so well. Days like today I just cant focus on anything else, and I try so hard to be calm and just relax, but I just don't know quite how to let my mind not think the worst, but thats what a previous miscarriage does to you. Turns you into this worry wart. I am 7w1d today and instead of jumping for joy that i have made it this far, I am wishing the symptoms were louder than ever!

[abituse]

rbohl:
I am finding myself very excited at times, and yet very worried at times. I find that if you have someone that went thru a similiar loss that you can e-mail, that is helpful. I told that person that I dont expect reponses to all the e-mails but just to have someone to spill all your feelings to at anytime, is incredibly helpful. To answer your question, I am just trying not to get overly excited in case God has a different plan for this baby too, so I guess it is hard to connect but I think once I see the heart beat on the US next wed the 28th, I will be able to be relaxed since it is <5% chance of miscarrying then. Although I have had a few friends miscarry at 11 or 12 weeks, which is still scary. Although one of those had low progesterone and mine was checked and was great!
it sounds like we all will have similiar feelings when being pregnant again, but thankfully we can lean on each other as corny as that sounds, but help to reassure that all will be ok. I find myself not worrying as much as the days go on because I am reassured by symptoms (breast tenderness, urinary frequency, and some nausea) since that reminds me I have  a little one increasing all those hormones.
The one positive thing that comes out of a miscarriage, is your reassurance that you are able to concieve. At least you know both of you are fertile and can get pregnant again. When I am reminded of my friends that try for years or have to spend tons of money on in vitro, I am thankful that at least we are fertile :)

[bernie40]

Hi, you've expressed what each and everyone of us are thinking.  I'm so sorry for your loss and so happy for you new BFP.  I know that when I am lucky enough to get another BFP I shall be a complete worry wart, i will drive my friends and family round the twist.  I am petrified of it happening again.  If you can get an earlier scan or even if they can just check your bloods on a weekly basis that will at least give you some encouragement.  I'm sure you will relax once you see that little baby dancing on the screen :)

[rbohl01]

Congratulations on the new pregnancy. I recently had a miscarriage also. My husband and I are going to start trying again this month since I just got AF again. The feelings you are describing having right now are some of my biggest worries about getting pregnant again. I almost feel like when it happens I will not be able to connect with the baby or something because I will be too afraid of losing it. Are you experiencing that at all?

[abituse]

K10road,
thank-you very much for your encouragement and thoughts. I have a scheduled nurse appt on the 26th and they said they schedule the US shortly after that, but you're right, my mind is so focused that it would be helpful if they would schedule me sooner. I will give that a shot. Thanks again!

[k10road]

I am so sorry for your loss.  I have miscarried before myself.  I will be as candid as I can be here.  The fear will NOT go away.  You will always worry.  It is so sad that a miscarriage takes away the innocence of any other pregnancy.  Unfortunately, so many women miss out on enjoying their pregnancies because they worry too much.  In your case though, try really hard to be as positive as you can because the chances of a woman losing her first pregnancy by way of early term pregnancy are fairly high (and it is almost "normal").  But, your chances of having a healthy pregnancy this time around are HUGE (like in the 90% range huge)!!!  Your body was just doing what was best at the time because there was probably some sort of issue with the fetus.  I know how hard it is not to worry though - trust me.  One little suggestion - call your doctor and ask if you can have an early ultrasound because you are so stressed from the last miscarriage.  A lot of times, they will do them early for you.  At this point - 6w3d - you could most likely see a heartbeat.  I certainly think that it would put your mind at ease.  Whatever you do though, try your absolute hardest to not stress because it is no good at all for the baby.  I wish you the best of luck and I hope that in about 8 1/2 months, you have a beautiful, healthy baby!