Shell,
You are a funny one - send me my ice cream please and the sprinkles are my favorite!
You got me to thinking though. If someone in our lives gave us these goodies every day as a reward like we reward good behavior etc from our children wouldn't life be better? Does that make us children? I might just ask my family to think of me as a child and see how that goes for a bit, LOL.
Take care and thanks for the sprinkles :)
Hugs,
Erin
Linda,
We all walk the walk every day and most of us like you put on a smile :) but I hope that you don't want to cry everyday. Well ok let's me honest we all probably want to cry at some point in the day but there has to be happy times too. We just need to focus more on the good minutes. Did you notice I said minutes, lol. Days are way too much to ask for, maybe we could shoot for hours.
This is a great post because I have laughed several times which I didn't even notice that I hadn't done in months!
Also I feel so connected again to great people and am taking a lot of the advice to heart.
Take Care & Smile For Yourself Today Not The World Around You
Hugs,
Erin :)
Erin, you have three big dogs. Did you train them? They are far eaier to trian, especially if you got them as pups, than grown humans. Repeat their instructions as many times as it takes, and eventually they'll probably catch on. Meanwhile, give the daughter a Milk-Bone every time she makes dinner or feeds the canine crew, becauase a treat of some kind helps reinforce the verbal thanks & makes the memory of it last longer.
Oh my, yes and Yes and YES (to all of the above :o) My husband and daughter have PIPS (Peas in Pod Syndrome) - I always say forget the oil and water, those two are gasoline and a MATCH. DD admits to it, but DH is in total denial *sigh*.
As to the other..."But you don't look sick" is an oldie but a goodie [insert raspberry here]. Well, duh. What's the use of putting on makeup if you wind up looking like the 200 year old wheezing hag you feel like on the inside?? Call me Quasimota (ha).
My horses are my therapy and my house is a disaster area (and I'm not gonna care either, so there ;o) Hope things get better for you soon girl!
- Jen
WAF
Thanks for sharing :)
I know that hubby might have a serious health issue and believe me I was afraid that they might find the big C when they did his bladder and prostate scope! I was in limbo land for about 10 years so I know how awful it is to look good and feel terrible and know that people are wondering if you are really sick at all!!!
You would think that after my experience I would be completely supportive and I am trying. The big difference is that while I went through my journey I worked 60 hours a week went to all of my kids concerts and sports events made dinner at 7:00 at night after the events, had tons of sleep overs with a house of hyper children and kept a very clean house as well as helping everyone keep track of the busy schedules. At night I would hurt so bad sometimes I sat in the bath and just let the tears flow. The next day I would get up and be glad to be alive ( after a little pep talk to myself) and watch be kids grow up.
I am happy that I was able to push through my pain etc. and be there for my children and share their events but it would have been nice if my husband had been more involved and maybe pitched in with the house, yard and other normal upkeep. At one doctors appt in my journey the doctor asked how my illness had effected our life and my husband told him that I didn't clean the house as often or as well and that I spent more time on the sofa. REALLY - I was on the sofa watching tv from like 9:00 or 10:00 to 11:00 at night after I had the kids in bed and as many chores as I could handle. I think healthy people spent more time on the sofa then me.
Sorry for what turned in to a pity party rant but thanks. Maybe now that I put that in type for you I realize that I am holding on to past disappointment and frustration in his behavior while I was in limbo land. I can't change the past and I don't want to behave the way he did while I was suffering limbo land blues!
Maybe everything really does happen for a reason. Fingers crossed that I will be loving and supportive through his journey and he will have the first hand experience of what it's like to really feel awful and look fine and travel this journey in limbo. We might end up closer because you really can't understand someone's pain or life until you live it.
Also you mentioned help from my daughter. She has started making dinner a couple of nights a week and feeding our 3 large dogs 4 days a week. I'm usually right there helping or talking to her but what a difference it makes to have help. I think she feels good pitching in too.
Finally - I can't take the provigil either because it makes my heart race and I get hyper. I already take 4 pills a day for tachycardia so anything that raises my heart rate is a no no.
Take care & thank you
Hugs,
Erin :)
Isn't it good to know your not the only one dealing with this, well i know i do but i still wish i had that magic fary wand, though i have been considering a cattle prod instead lol.
I wonder if its not really an issue of YOU not being able to communicate well with them, and more an issue of because the communication is coming from you, they dont hear it because its all been said before, and before that.
Eg. i've always looked after the garden beds, I still tried to keep them up because to ask didn't get more than "yep i'll do that for you" dh gets upset with me every time i set out to fix those neglected garden beds, because he's always going to do it and i shouldn't be doing those things anymore, well i agree with him that i just cant anymore. Anyway, one day the council fined us $400 for not having 'a maintained garden visible from the street', the fine arrived on the Thursday and by Sunday the entire garden was gleaming, looks great.
I have no doubt that i would still be asking and getting frustrated, if not for someone else pointing out that it needed to be cleaned up, now if they would just fine us again so i can get the 3 ton of excess mulch removed from the middle of the driveway lol!
So, i wonder if I should stop repeating my self and just introduce a fine, it just might get the point across. I have considered calling the council and asking if they could fine us for 'an unreasonable amount of lego on the premises' or 'grass longer than 2inches' or 'unacceptable number of tools per household' ohh ohhh maybe i could fake reasonable looking official fines, i might just get away with it FOFL!
There is always hope, young professor is insisting he vacuums because then he can save his lego, where as i will just vac it up, how i love the sound of lego being sucked up the vac, one less piece in the universe!
Cheers........JJ
PS.I think some times the impossible puzzle just remains so!