Marrying someone with MS?

[Fifa]

I recently met a man who told me has MS. We're now having a romantic relationship and he's hoping it would lead to marriage. His condition is progressive and has been stable for the past 12 years. My parents are not for this relationship with this guy, though I like him a lot, because they think it's a 'way to hell'.

I would like some advice and would like to know if people with progressive MS can have a normal life? and how dangerous can it be if thinking of having children? etc.

[Deb61]

Wow!  What a great story!  THAT is what love is, Thanks for sharing.  Deb

[Sumanadevii]

It's time again!  I am sending you each off to read my journal entry on "What is Love".  

Enjoy!!

[Deb61]

I think what was posted by Audrey and Sumanadevii sums up my feelings quite well.  I have a lot of emotion about this, too.  I am so fortunate to have such a wonderful husband.  It's a give and take relationship.  He's lost without me and I am without him.  He's my rock and has been through the whole ugly ordeal with me, and has stuck with me.  This is true love.

[Audrey_M]

For me, Sumanadevii summed it up so well..."If you love the man why would it make a difference?".

That's what love and marriage is all about and why the traditional vows include "in sickness and in health". For me personally, this one stirred up a lot of negative emotions.

I have a sister who dated a young man who was an epileptic and his seizures were difficult to control. She could not handle the seizures. They would have intimate relations and then he would sleep on the couch. I thought that was so cruel. If you love someone, you take them warts and all, even if those warts are something more serious. She finally did end the relationship when she realized how scared she was of his seizures. He did die of a seizure before the age of 40.

Maybe I would have responded differently if the question was posed "I have fallen in love with a man who has MS and marriage is a definite possibility. What are the things I should know so that I can be a supportive wife and work with him through this disease?"

The original poster's link is inactive, so we can't even send her an PM to find out what she decided and why.

OK, so I blew off some steam.

Audrey

[Sumanadevii]

I didn't read all the comments....way too long for me but my opinion?  If you love the man why would it make a difference?  Hell, if I loved a man and he was dying of cancer I would marry him.  

You don't say how old you are but your parents (unless you are from another culture) don't choose your spouse...at least not here in the USA.  You do.

[coach291]

She was diagnosed two years ago and I was diagnosed this past summer. We have totally different symptoms but know excactly what the other is going through.