The next few weeks

[MCBCON]

I have mentioned that we will have to move out our house we have lived in for the last ten years.  The next two weeks will be quite emotional, difficult to deal with. The bank will be taking ownership of our house and we have to vacate this place.

All the MS symptoms and the effects on my family will be painful for all of us these coming weeks.  We have purposely left some of the moving tasks till after Christmas just to make the holiday a bit more enjoyable.

Our friends and family are for the most part being good to us.  We will be moving in with two sets of friends with my youngest son living with close friends of his; my wife and I with some other fiends.  My oldest son will be back at college.

Until an apartment of our choosing is available we  will live in this separated manner.  As soon as an apartment is arranged we will all rejoin as a single family unit.

[MCBCON]

Actually, I think we are all in a sort of shell shock even though this has been looming for some time now.

Both my wife and I have to cope with chronic illnesses and a good amount of fatigue that accompanies them.  Our families seem to be staying on the the periphery for the most part.  Our friends are those that are stepping up and helping a great deal, both financially and in just being there and making things happen.  I am not saying that our families are not helping at all,  it is just not at all in the manner as our friends.

I have to make an exception here.  My younger sister, who has the fewest resources, gives so much to us, in many ways.

We really have never asked for help really.  Yet, our friends keep stepping up anyway.   I often wonder why this happens.

My boys seem at a loss for how to deal with all this.  They only seem to be able to do exactly what is requested of them and almost nothing else.  I think a lot of that has to do with how my wife functions in her new role as head of the family.   Because of my cognitive issues and loss of motor skills they and my wife are dealing with their new roles and this new ridiculous reality.

Thank God for good friends.

[Sumanadevii]

Such a hardship while coping with MS.  I beg of you to take care.  Stress can play havoc during times like this.  The wonderful news is that family and friends have gathered to make things easier for you.  What a wonderful gift ...the gift of love.  Your sons will be strong because I have this feeling that they come from good "stock".  While it will be hard it will be a teaching lesson for your sons.  They will watch how you and your wife handle the stresses of life and learn from it.  As you show the face of faith that things will work in her own time, they will see it.

I also want to compliment your wife.  She must be a strong woman or she leans on one strong man or....maybe both!!!!  I am proud of you, MCBCON.  You show character.  I like that!!!

Sumana

[HVAC]

How terribly sad. At least you have friends to stay with in the transition. Life sure is not fair.

Alex