Hi again its been awhile but my mum did ring the doctors back in January, the best help I got was 'lots of people your age have it. It usually stops in 6 months if not come back In 18 months time. ' She also bought me some anxiety books to help. During February my hocd thoughts paused for a month and went to Harm Ocd (harming myself and killing myself) which was terrible! And now the gay thoughts have come back again and I'm very confused I've lost all liking towards boys but being with girls makes me gag and feels horrible, even though I still want to be in a relationship with a boy?? And during the 1 month pause the friend I thought I liked I had no thoughts about so I assumed thats hocd. Its very confusing currently any suggestions?
Don't get down if they diagnose you with OCD. It is what it is remember and we cannot control every aspect of our lives. I know the pain you are going through...the self-torture stinks but I promise you that you will learn to deal with it and live a very normal life with the help of a psychologist. If anything, I am proof of that! College educated, married with children, and have a professional job. This is not a death sentence...it is just a bump in the road that you need some help getting over. Once you learn the strategies they are there for life and you can use them any time you need them.
It becomes very daunting when you realise OCD doesn't go away. She kept telling me to put it in a box and lock it away. Only problem is that box won't shut. I realise HOCD is in some ways good but bad. Telling me I have HOCD would ease my anxiety a bit, but it doesn't go away. These thoughts are horrible and getting to therapy a.s.a.p seems like a good option, I kept wishing that I could survive until 18 and see a therapist alone but I hardly think I can survive another day and the support of my parents will help things out. I'd love to lead a normal life and do the things I've always wanted to do without these horrible thoughts here 24/7! I really appreciate the help. This mind game is changing everything, even when I know I never loved girls it says I always have.
It is difficult for people that do not suffer from intrusive thoughts to understand them. The bottom line is that if we could stop, we would right! I mean who wants to spend every waking moment of their day thinking things like this. OCD is a neurotransmitter imbalance in our brains. Either we learn to counter the thoughts and think differently, take medication or both, it is something that doesn't go away on its own. Mine started as a teenager in earnest. OCD doesn't go away. Once you have it, you have it but you can lead a very normal life with the proper tools to help yourself and in some cases medication is indicated. Tell you mom that if you could stop you would but that you are unable to get a handle on the thoughts and you would like to see somebody. And when you see the psychologist, tell them everything. Trust me, there isn't anything you could say to him or her that they have not already heard a million times from other people. Remember, they can't help fix what they don't know is broken.
They certainly are. These thoughts seem to be getting worse and worse as the days go on. Going to school is causing me to hide away and Im loosing a lot of friends. It just seems scary talking to her about this and then if she takes me to a psychologist what am I supposed to say? I'll try speaking to her about it, but what if she just tells me im being silly again and I need to stop?
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My suggestion would be to talk to your mom again. If you can tell her you are afraid you are turning gay, then I think you can tell her how much this thought is affecting your life and that you do need to see at the very least your primary care doc who will hopefully refer you to a psychologist and educate mom at the same time.
Take some time to read the other HOCD posts on here. My answers are usually the same and after reading your story, I don't see you being different from any of the other people who post.