Intercourse post op and doing chemo...

[loralai]

First off, sorry to get personal. Today I had my 2nd follow up appt w/ oncologist & he asked me about intercouse...how's it going?..are we having any?..etc. I told him everything is fine...yes we have and no there isn't any pain. The thing is, it's good but not often. Hardly ever in fact. I just don't have any desire to do so. I LOVE my husband and I feel bad...I know it's difficult for him. He is so patient and knows I have a lot on my plate. I have my #3 chemo tomorrow, we have toddlers (29 mos & 17mos), & the anniversary of my moms passing is 11/14 (2yrs).  I miss her and I hate that she's not here with me. We always want our mommy when we're sick right? I lost my 22 yr old sister in 2001 and my dad in 2002 before that. I am a stay at home mom in a bit of an identity crisis and can't really do anything about it because I am trying to save all my energy for my kids and my treatments. I miss working but it would just be so hard do adjust myself and the girls to a new schedule right now. So anyway, is it all this cr*p that's happened the reason I am disinterested...is it the chemo or side effect of my surgery? I've read others took something for libido. Should I talk to my doctor about this? My docs a man and I feel weird! Has anyone done so and has it helped? I am tired enough I don't want to be tired of feeling guilty about this. Any advice would be helpful. Maybe I should have posted this in the relationships section LOL! I'm a mess!

[sk2006a]

i think what you're experiencing is perfectly natural.  you've had more than your fair share of problems in the past several years!  talk to your doctor.  i would think there isn't much he hasn't seen or heard.  good luck :)