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New Donna Update
Dear Friends,
I received a text msg from Donna a little while ago and I am just going to write it here verbatim.
"Starting to tell everyone may have 2 get news from u hard 2 type answers 2 all 4 me now lol put u as who will let them know i appreciate them all get so looped on dilaudid"
I am glad she gets looped on dilaudid, that means she isn't in any pain.
I sent her two texts that she answered in one. I asked her if she wanted Cory to come get her husband out of the house tomorrow while she picks out her funeral arrangements. OMG I can't even imagine. The funeral home people are going to go to her house so she doesn't have to get out. Her husband "J" thought she would get better once she was home and is having a hard time dealing with the reality of the situation. For him picking that stuff is in the unseen future, for Donna it is close at hand, so I think he will take it hard. Donna is so strong even now she is more worried about those around her than herself. Her pastor came to visit today also so I think that was a good thing. I also told her I was going to ask you all to say your goodbyes and than stop writing because it was to taxing on her and she didn't need to be worrying about whether she was hurting someone's feelings or not. You all know how it is. This is her response to those text msgs.
"I hope j will pick his stuff 2 he said he would & no one 2 do it 4 him talked to chris & ronnie just now & they want 2 send notes if i can't answer so i want them 2 know i c them & appr it & u would update 4 me pastor helped"
Donna's onc told her that she could have two months if she stayed on the glucose IV, but that it would get uncomfortable for her and she would want to stop it. She gets about 1500 calories a day that way, but that is not the same as food and Donna is losing a lot of weight. She will slowly starve to death if she stays on it to long so she will stop sometime soon. We are looking at week/s not months now. Cory and I are going down Friday and I don't know how long we will stay. Maybe just the day, maybe longer. I know I am going back down next week also after my CT/Chest X Ray on Tuesday and will stay several days if not longer. I want to be there for her in the end and that is so up in the air right now. She has decided that when she gets to a certain point she wants to be in the hospital/hospice care. It is a local hospital in a small town, but she has a Dr friend who works there and she will get VIP treatment. She is kind of afraid of being in pain and worried about how J will take it if she dies at home. She is afraid he will lose it and not know what to do. That is one of the reasons I want to be there. Just in case she doesn't get to the hospital before, I don't want him to be home alone when/if it does happen like that. She is not to awfully afraid of the dying part, but she is scared of being in pain so that is one reason she is choosing the hospital at the end. She has gone the range of feelings and is angry at the Drs who can't do anything, angry at the world, angry that she has to go so young, angry that J will be left alone, but through all of that anger, she is LOL a lot so that could be a good lesson for us: no matter how angry we get, we have to keep our heads and not let the rage keep us from LOL. Most of you know who/what I am talking about. I will keep you informed as well as I can. Please understand if Donna does not answer your notes or emails. She just doesn't have it in her right now, but wants you all to know how much she loves and appreciates all of you for your numerous kindnesses.
Love,
Jan
I received a text msg from Donna a little while ago and I am just going to write it here verbatim.
"Starting to tell everyone may have 2 get news from u hard 2 type answers 2 all 4 me now lol put u as who will let them know i appreciate them all get so looped on dilaudid"
I am glad she gets looped on dilaudid, that means she isn't in any pain.
I sent her two texts that she answered in one. I asked her if she wanted Cory to come get her husband out of the house tomorrow while she picks out her funeral arrangements. OMG I can't even imagine. The funeral home people are going to go to her house so she doesn't have to get out. Her husband "J" thought she would get better once she was home and is having a hard time dealing with the reality of the situation. For him picking that stuff is in the unseen future, for Donna it is close at hand, so I think he will take it hard. Donna is so strong even now she is more worried about those around her than herself. Her pastor came to visit today also so I think that was a good thing. I also told her I was going to ask you all to say your goodbyes and than stop writing because it was to taxing on her and she didn't need to be worrying about whether she was hurting someone's feelings or not. You all know how it is. This is her response to those text msgs.
"I hope j will pick his stuff 2 he said he would & no one 2 do it 4 him talked to chris & ronnie just now & they want 2 send notes if i can't answer so i want them 2 know i c them & appr it & u would update 4 me pastor helped"
Donna's onc told her that she could have two months if she stayed on the glucose IV, but that it would get uncomfortable for her and she would want to stop it. She gets about 1500 calories a day that way, but that is not the same as food and Donna is losing a lot of weight. She will slowly starve to death if she stays on it to long so she will stop sometime soon. We are looking at week/s not months now. Cory and I are going down Friday and I don't know how long we will stay. Maybe just the day, maybe longer. I know I am going back down next week also after my CT/Chest X Ray on Tuesday and will stay several days if not longer. I want to be there for her in the end and that is so up in the air right now. She has decided that when she gets to a certain point she wants to be in the hospital/hospice care. It is a local hospital in a small town, but she has a Dr friend who works there and she will get VIP treatment. She is kind of afraid of being in pain and worried about how J will take it if she dies at home. She is afraid he will lose it and not know what to do. That is one of the reasons I want to be there. Just in case she doesn't get to the hospital before, I don't want him to be home alone when/if it does happen like that. She is not to awfully afraid of the dying part, but she is scared of being in pain so that is one reason she is choosing the hospital at the end. She has gone the range of feelings and is angry at the Drs who can't do anything, angry at the world, angry that she has to go so young, angry that J will be left alone, but through all of that anger, she is LOL a lot so that could be a good lesson for us: no matter how angry we get, we have to keep our heads and not let the rage keep us from LOL. Most of you know who/what I am talking about. I will keep you informed as well as I can. Please understand if Donna does not answer your notes or emails. She just doesn't have it in her right now, but wants you all to know how much she loves and appreciates all of you for your numerous kindnesses.
Love,
Jan
Thank you Jan for being such a good friend to Donna and being there when we can't. I wish that I had good words to say but I find myself at a loss for words. Donna, you are a beautiful woman with a huge heart and I will be forever grateful to God that I got to know you, although way too short a time. I will keep you in my prayers for comfort from God, no pain and please know how much I love you. Colleen
Oh my...I've been out of town and am just seeing this. Jan, thank you. I know it meant so much to Donna but it was important for you, too. I'm so thankful that you were able to go see Donna. You are a wise and wonderful friend to so many people.
Whew...this is so hard. Donna, I feel as if I'm losing a close friend. This moment right now is the moment I dread for all the women whom I've come to know here. How can it be that friendships are formed over the internet like this. I've long said that this machine allows us all to be more open and honest and so I think it makes it easier to put it all out there. Anyway, you have been a friend to me. Your quick wit and humor have made me chuckle. You are a Lady. I so wish we could have had more talks.
Cancer s*cks and it makes me so mad that it robs beautiful women like you of a long life. I pray for comfort for J and your family. I pray for no pain for you and that you are treated like the princess that you are. I can't even say goodbye so I'll just say that I'll see you in Heaven.
Love you, Sweetie.
Whew...this is so hard. Donna, I feel as if I'm losing a close friend. This moment right now is the moment I dread for all the women whom I've come to know here. How can it be that friendships are formed over the internet like this. I've long said that this machine allows us all to be more open and honest and so I think it makes it easier to put it all out there. Anyway, you have been a friend to me. Your quick wit and humor have made me chuckle. You are a Lady. I so wish we could have had more talks.
Cancer s*cks and it makes me so mad that it robs beautiful women like you of a long life. I pray for comfort for J and your family. I pray for no pain for you and that you are treated like the princess that you are. I can't even say goodbye so I'll just say that I'll see you in Heaven.
Love you, Sweetie.
Jan ... give my special fairy lady, aka Donna, a hug for me. Been thinking about her and you often this week. I love you Donna ... and I'm keeping you in my prayers.
Warm hugs, Fran
Warm hugs, Fran
Donna was the one that lifted me up so many times when I was down, I looked for her name on posts and it made me feel better. Such courage she has to face this all, my only hope and prayer for her right now , is to be at peace and know that she is loved by many others. My heartfelt thanks Donna for all that you have given to me for Leslee, my heart is heavy now for both of you. All my love for you, for eternity, Marty
I am at a loss of words .....just praying that Donna has peace and calmness around her and no more pain....May God watch over her husband .....Jan, What can I say that everyone hasnt already said....you are incredible and remarkable. Love ya, Gia
Sending my love to you Donna, thankyou for being such a beautiful person. Its easy to see why you have so many friends . May you remain pain free .
Love Angie
Love Angie
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