Wow, there are still good doctors outside.
I am envying you.
For me, because I knew little about surgery and tumor, I did not know what to ask.
In the first meeting, what occupied my mind was to remove the tumor as soon as possible.
With little knowledge, patients are hard to raise questions. It is doctors' responsibility to educate patients and inform them.
(A)
I just searched online (because I hope I could become an educated consumer from the experience), the doctor should:
(1) What is the chosen surgery?
(2) Benefits and risks of the chosen surgery?
(3) Benefits and risks of alternatives?
Hope it is useful to other women on this forum.
(B)
At the same time, ask the surgeon to give a copy of the consent form and discuss with you a few days (at least one day) before the surgery. This is the second lesson I learned.
This is similar to your consent form question. The surgeon should spend as much time with you in a pre-op meeting as you need. Write down questions ahead of time if you think you will forget them. It is really easy to forget what you want to ask when you are there face to face with the doctor. My own surgeon discussed all the surgery options with me to help with the decision process.