is it normal for 7 year old to sleep w parent

[dj05]

Before my girlfried and i met she allowed her 7 and 10 year old to sleep w her. i didnt want this so she allowed the to sleep on her couchesdownstairs. Their room is upstairs and each have their own bed. I got her to make them sleep upstairs, except on weekends she still allows them downstairs. Lately she has been letting them sleep downstairs almost everynight and they have been knocking on door as well waking me upsaying they are scared. she leaves close to everylight on . between her letting them sleeping downstairs, waking us up all time, and last nite mentioning them sleeping w us along w other issues w her 7 year not being able todo literally anything for himself because he knows she will do it for him, im ready to move out. Im so fusterated because i love all three of them but i feel like im on a sinking ship. Is it normal for 7 year olds to expect mom to do everything for them and sleeping arrangements being like they are? What can i do?

[margypops]

Sounds like mom is a soft touch....I think you may want to speak to her about the way they disturb you, but they are her children so the way she brings them up is up to her, sounds like they could do with some boundary' setting. I think its best that the 7 year old sleep by herself , and her mom has to tell her and be consistent in not allowing her in the room where you both sleep .So speak to their mom and let her know how you feel ..good luck