6 year old

[mommyof2nowtp]

I'm on maternity leave and my daughters still on summer break. She is with me all the time and I have been dealing with some of my own things right now. She will wake up and until it's time for her to go to sleep she goes straight for the TV it's so frustrating.  The same cartoons and movies over and over I've seen them 100 times. If I tell her to leave the TV alone for awhile or even to turn it down its like a big thing.  She's bored she's got to have the TV.
I have two tvs in the house one in her play room and one in the living room . She always wants to watch TV in the living room where me and baby sit and I'm left staring at the walls frustrated and bored and stuck with my thoughts I have in my head with the cap I'm trying to deal with. Asking her to go in her toy room to watch tv she whines too. I feel like I'm going nuts.

[RockRose]

This is a horrible existence.  It would drive anyone into anxiety and depression,  mommyof2.

You need to get out of the house and do things.  I don't know if you're driving after the birth,  but going to a park,  maybe with a water splash feature,  to the library to explore books for you and your daughter,  even McDonald's playland for an ice cream cone and an hour of play would do you both really good.  

You really won't believe how good you'd feel if you put on some tennis shoes put your baby in the stroller and went for a walk around the neighborhood.

[Nighthawk61]

Maybe even teach her about music, see if you can't get her to learn some songs, and mentor her and get her to dance..
my son loved music and dancing at your daughters age,
and love to perform for friends and family alike
you've said that you have no friends,
friends you can meet at the local pool, with your kids, in tow
other mothers with babies and young kids at home
it would REALLY help you to live in the now
and not grieve a past that was never in the cards for you...
it would also allow you to meet friends of friends,
it would be SO HEALTHY for your kids if you made making friends a priority in YOUR life,
You need to teach your children how to make friends
no better way to do that than by doing so yourself.,,
I'm sure there are Mommy and me groups that you could attend
as i said at the public library you can meet other mothers interested in proving intellectual and creative pursuits for their kids

There are SO MANY OPTIONS for you to have a GREAT time with your little girl while still being a mom to a baby... it's done all the time...

You need to let this last man go out of your mind and your heart
it's harming your kids right now.!! you being so overly focused on the drama of something that never happened for you...is taking away from the memories that you should be creating with them, specifically your 6 year old daughter who WILL REMEMBER that you allowed her to watch tv all day... Is that what type of mom you want to be remembered as ?
I know it's not , i know you're hurting, we all have lost at love before..
you have to let it go dear., he's not worth it. never was...
but your kids will be yours for life.
just because he's tied to you because of your son, doesn't mean he's yours, Your daughter and son ARE yours.
Your loyalty should be to them and them ONLY....

Please consider my words, they are said with love ..
I was a single mom, I know what you'll regret if you don't listen to wisdom, and seek out the right support and act on it.......

You're in my prayers, you and your daughter and son...

[Nighthawk61]

She always wants to watch TV in the living room where me and baby sit and I'm left staring at the walls frustrated and bored and stuck with my thoughts I have in my head with the cap I'm trying to deal with.

I don't understand why you are having such a hard time letting go of a man who is otherwise engaged. Why are you allowing this to take away from your time with your kids?

To the point, of sending her into another room to watch tv, all day and night?

Please consider talking to a therapist and asking them about child development. It will come in handy as your son grows.

[Nighthawk61]

You've said that you have your mother's support. Can your mom take your daughter out to the park during the day, or evening before bed.
Is there a male influence in your family that could teach your daughter how to fish?
Can you spend time with your daughter cooking, or get her involved with helping around the house?
Can you take her on a walk with you and the baby stroller?
Is there a community program in your area that can teach her how to swim?
Can you take her to the library and get her involved in a story book session?
Thee are SO many things that would serve her better spiritually, than allowing her to watch tv.  every waking moment...

Can your mother help with the baby daily, so that you can spend a few hours of quality time with your daughter ?

[Nighthawk61]

Okay, so the fact that you are saying that your daughter watches tv from morning to night is a HUGE PROBLEM for your daughter.and how she is going to be able to relate to the world.

You have chosen to have two kids, you cannot just let your daughter watch tv all day, and consider that an option. That's a terrible waste of time for your daughter and you really need to make an effort to engage her in play and reading and creative endeavors.

You've said that you are lonely and now "dealing with crap". Let these men that are no longer in your life, or your kids lives go ....

please spend quality time with your daughter, she will only be 6 once, you will regret letting her go like this if you do not change how you deal with her.


Here's some expert advice........

Your 5-year-old now

Television is a big draw at age 5. It's a way to unwind after a busy day at daycare or school. Programs feature favorite characters your child recognizes from her toys and books, and that she talks about with her friends. And while she's watching, you gain a few minutes to take care of other things.

The problem is, children's TV programs are available 24/7. If you're concerned that an innocent habit is becoming too much of a good thing, consider these ideas:

    Make sure your child watches TV programs, not just TV. Plan ahead to watch specific shows. Keep track of when the show ends, and turn the TV off afterward.

    Avoid keeping the TV on all day as background noise regardless of whatever else is going on.
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Try keeping the set in an inconvenient place. Some families use a portable TV that must be pulled out of a closet and plugged in. Others conceal the set in a cabinet with doors that are too high for a child to reach.

Cut back to just one TV. Avoid having multiple TV sets scattered throughout the house, so everyone can watch their own favorite programs at will. Never keep a set in your child's bedroom.

Watch together when you can. It's not always practical or possible, but your presence can add to your child's active viewing experience. Ask questions about what's happening. Talk about how the commercials are trying to get you to buy things.