Walked in on 12 and 7yo. Should I be worried

[drschmid16]

The other day my 12 year old son was playing at his 7 year old brother's house under the supervision of 7's mom. She will often take them so they can play together. They were in the bedroom with the door closed and she said when she walked in, 7's head was in between 12's crotch and they jumped when she opened the door. Instead of asking right then and there what they were doing she called my husband in a fit of rage saying the boys will never see each other again. She then later asked 7 if my son has ever touched him there, he said one time when they were fighting. So now I'm not sure how to treat this. Our son said he was farting in his face when she walked in, which is what I assumed as they play like that all the time. If I had walked in on them doing something suspicious I would have asked for explanations immediately. Now I don't know what 7 thinks was happening in that moment because no one addressed it with him as far as I know. What kind of questions can we ask of our 12 year old to get to the bottom of this?

[margypops]

Again children allowed to alone in bedrooms with locked doors ....whats to say... I think it was wrong the 12 year old should have known better ...supervision thats whats needed ....

[loimmarmar]

Hello,
   What an excellent way to explain this kind of scenerio. My first question to any of the adults....Were the kids DRESSED, and if so, was there any parts of the body sticking out of say a zipper opening....I can see them boys farting in each others faces....BOYS do those kind of things. Do they regularly roughhouse?
   From now on and with no special attention brought to it, just simply say....oh, by the way, let the door open from now on in case I yell for one of you,... that way you are not accusing or bringing undue attention to an innocent thing....NOW, on the other hand
   If It were something to be concerned about, I would simply speak with the 12 yr old and ask what really happened.. although not in that kind of questioning way...kinda like this, So, now let me ask you, do his farts stink worse than yours?   Then just be quiet, and if It was an innocent thing....you will hear all about the farts and smells and whos smelled worse......and since appropiate sexual awareness should have been provided and maintained by the parents in the form of right and wrong touching, which in my mind should start at birth and continue with appropiate age discussions, you should be able to see the innocence. Just a side note here...It is around these ages that the boys figure out the kick in the balls pain and they will retailiate and PLAY around with it for a time until someone gets them real good. I have grandsons and have watched it.
   I do hope that you started teaching about sex as age appriopiate, actually from birth. I do not think a child shound find out about the birds and the bees when they are ready and able to produce pregnancies.
   Keep it short and sweet and as long as you all are watching them and teaching appropiate sexual behavior, I think these boys will be great.
    If you think that there is a real problem here, I would look to find the SOURCE. No matter who the instigator, 7 yr old or 12 yr old, WHERE was it learned from, who touched them for them to know.
   I will Pray for courage in handling this situation, Have a wonderful blessed day!!   GOD BLESS!!!     loimmarmar

[RockRose]

If they were both clothed,  and they are known to fart in each other's faces (odd,  it does seem to happen),  I think you have your answer.  Gross,  but not really a huge concern.