my child talks TOO MUCH

[tripplebright]

I don't think my 6 yr old Daughter, has ADHD, but I think she just may be Hyper, She has been talking excessivly from the age of 2 till now, but now it's worse!!  In the morning, she Pops up, and starts talking about random things, for example I woke her up this morning and said "Wake up it's time for school"- she popped opened her eyes and said "Mommy did you graduate college?", It begins and ends this way everyday and though I find some things cute and humorous, It stops being cute after about 10 mins of non-stop chatter, and since I know it's going to be like this every day I just get frustrated with it quickly. Most people would just think it's cute, and when she was 2,  it was, people stopped me everywhere because of my "precocious", little girl, who was so well spoken. The thing is she sleeps heavily and well, (and talks in her sleep on occasion), she plays well, by herself for hours at times, and still talks the whole time, which leads me to beleive she may not be ADD. Everyone has always told me she's so smart but she is falling behind in school, she always needs to sit away from other children, she is distracted by, and distracts others, she is Bossy with other children, Which worries me that kids wont want to be her friend, Iv'e already overheard a child say "Oh no She's here".  But the biggest problem Now Is when we run into people, maby someone with a dog, she Talks So Furiously that you can't hear anything else, and she says things like " you wanna come over to our house"  to strangers, and it puts me in awkward situatons all the time, to where I don't want to take her anywhere, cause I don't want to have to talk to all those people, and I couldn't get a word in if I wanted to.    At Home when my husband and I try to talk, she talks over us so badly that we just lose it somtimes and scream "Shut Up"(I hate that, I don't want to get that frustated, and teach her, that it's ok to just lose it and act that way)  when we watch a movie, we usually have to stop it several times, to try, futilely to quiet her, we've learned to use the sub-titles now. she's obnoxiously social, people don't think it's cute anymore and because she's so invasive they just get annoyed with her, :(  
I am so FRUSTRATED with this situation, I LOVE my girl and I know she is sooo special, but if I can't get her to do nothing more than just, * slow down her talking*,   I may go Insane!!  

---I know to some people think this may sound harsh on my part, but keep in mind everyone deals with things differently, and put in the same situation others would most likley feel the same, Her Teachers do!
so please don't post about how Horrible I sound, I already know!!!!

[livn4god]

Sounds exactly like my 6yr old son, who started at a young age as well. I also find myself getting way more frustrated than i want to be and sometimes say Shut Up too....i have found when i say 'mommy's ears need a rest' i get a few minutes of peace without feeling horrible for saying Shut Up.

About a year ago my son was diagnosed with mild autism and seems to stem from that. Most people think anti-social for autism but it's not always the case. It can be tbe opposite extreme as well. My son seeks out social interaction. The key is that they don't get social ques...so have no idea they are
in someone's space or annoying.

One doctor put it this way...he has all the social skills needed to function in society but he gets in his own way due to the autism. So skills there but have ro tap into them differently than others.

[Casey572]

I am so relieved to know that I am not the only one. I have been feeling horrible for feeling like I dont want to be around me step son. He is 9 with a diagnosis of ADHD and concerta has not worked so far. My step son lives with us full time because his mother is not mentally well. I know that what he has been through in his life definitely contributes to his own mental issues. He is considered a gift learner so he has a very high IQ and while I love him. I am about to loose my mind because he never stops talking. If he is not talking he is following me around and making sound effects or just has a answer for everything. He does not take no for an answer well either.  I have never told him to shut up. I could never do that but sometimes I want to shout it. I bear brunt of it because I am his primary parent as my husband works a lot.  It starts in the morning when he comes down stairs and within 20 mins I have had enough, I get a break while at work then it picks up right after I pick him up from day care. He is also not making friends because other kids are telling him that he is annoying. While that breaks my heart, I can kind of see where they are coming from because he is probably doing the same thing to them.  I have tried telling him that people need quiet time, his soccer coach told him that people appreciate people who don't always have something to say, he takes non verbal quest but then asks if he is being annoying and says something like I know I am but I just like to keep pointing out the obvious to everyone even though I know it's annoying.  Thanks for letting me vent. We have another doctors appointment for medication adjustment coming up so hopefully something will give or I might just end up in counseling.

[Reborn10]

It's good that this forum is here for people to vent and share experiences.  It helps others to read them, and feel not alone.  Of course a few judgmental commenters have popped in who feel so superior to everyone that they feel entitled to dish out their own narrow opinion as gospel.  That wasn't nice to see a  judgemental air in those comments, but they were few.  Most people have shared their experiences good and bad, along with what has and has not worked for them.  I found it wholesome.  

[specialmom]

I would imagine with more parents at home with kids and being told to stay at home without outlets, this will be a rough couple of weeks or longer of this.  

[Moof2]

Just a thought, see if your son will write a story. My son is almost six and is a huge story teller. I have found that if I make him elaborate on a story by asking specific questions about what he is telling me, he will actually stop talking for a few seconds to think about what he is going to say. A few seconds may not be much but it's def a relief for a short time!!

[Kamjamsam4b]

My ten yr old is just like this ,I don't know if he has adhd but he doesn't stop talking even in school talks a lot or winds people up.he has two younger brothers and he either interrupts them when they are talking or winds them up when nothing else to do.am struggling what to do as it causes a lot of arguments in the house, he is ok when we are out and he busy but still talks constantly.please can someone give me some tips.

[JessicaVic]

This could be me.  My 9 year old does have ADHD, and we have been able to curb a lot of her issues.  But the talking is driving us crazy and it isn't the constant talking anymore, it is the talking whenever our attention is else where.  Could be walking through the grocery store "mom, mom, mom, mom", checking out at any store, she can be quiet up until the clerk talks to me or I am entering my credit card info,  if her TV show is on, she is silent, the minute ours is on, she is talking non-stop.  My husband will get up and leave our conversations, because she cannot stop talking AT us not with us, but AT us.  She also knows "everything", she doesn't have any close friends, she makes friends easily as she isn't shy, but she doesn't have any close friend, because of the bossiness, that comes across with her behavior.  It breaks my heart, but I am at a loss as to how to make this work for her.  She is an only child, so she is our main focus. She goes to a private school, and during the summer she is at camp most days, so she has lots of socialization.  Last year her teacher was a parent with a child that had ADHD, so it was great having someone advise, us who has been there.  But my daughter had a desk by herself, not in one of the groups, because she couldn't stop talking with her groupmates.  Nervous about the new year and what it my bring.  

[Jacqueline_1987]

I just read a Facebook post concerning Magnesium and ADHD.  I strongly believe this is a huge factor in my child. Keep a journal of what they eat....Stress, injuries unhealthy diet and daily pollutions deplet Magnesium.  This post sounds just like my 7yr old son.  

[Gingerbeast]

I just got back from a parent teacher conference at my 5 year old sons preschool.

I have ADHD, its a strong genetic trait in my family. That said I do NOT think my son has ADHD or ADD:

He talks ALL the time and like others here have expressed he will talk to anyone about anything and in detail! He has an amazing memory and can tell accurately detailed stories of  things we did when he was 2. Its amazing. He has a wonderful vocabulary.

The problem is it is non-stop and he is taking over in his class. We live in Sweden and the class is ages 3-6 (start of kindergarten) and everyone, kids included are exhausted by him! He can´t seem to control his umpulsive talking. In group he answers every question before anyone has a chance even when the teacher directs the question to a specific child.

Besides this he also wants to know when things are happening, by whom, where, when, how for every minute of the day. The absolut worst thing you can tell him is "we shall see" or "I dont know exactly just yet". That opens up a whole world of frustration for everyone involved! He takes the "Are we there yet" to a whole new level and a daily, even hourly event. He easily makes friends but then he talks them to death and wants to control each and every asspect of what they are playing. His friends are beginning to purposefuly choose activities he doesnt enjoy to get a minutes peace.

How can I help him? How can his teachers help him? We are all at a loss!