What I see here is a big fuss being made by you and possibly other family,regarding her eating,understandable I would say, however she is enjoying all the attention, does she feed herself ..children of this age like to be independent and allowing her to eat on her own is a good thing, lots of great finger foods out there ,dont give her milk at feeding time it fills them up .Don't feed her whenever she wants, again its the attention factor, feed her at the times when you eat, she will have more appetite that way , mac and cheese, chunks of cheese, pasta, rice, chicken pieces, fish sticks, fruits, yoghort, puddings crackers,eggs beans, peas, .there are young children foods in the freezer compartments .Lessen the interest in her eating and in my opinion it will get better good luck ..