Pregnancy chances?

[Rainy48]

Hi - new here (another Brit by the way). I'm 38 and married nearly two years in June and heard the words from the doctor just this Monday gone: "it's very unlikely you will ever get pregnant", devastating news! I'm not really sure why I am writing this; I know I am miles from home and perhaps just looking for company and support from people who have heard similar news....My doctor said that before we consider egg donation (the prospect of that possibly being our only option hasn't really sunk in) he will put me on Clomid - I start next month.....
I would love for someone to drop by and comment and perhaps share some of this babydust I see you kindly wish for those needing it.

[adgal]

An RE is a reproductive encrinoligist (spelling?).  They specialize in fertility issues and high risk pregnancies.  There is no doubt 21 is very high.  However, I have seen women with high FSH levels conceive, although the chances are slimmer.  Sorry, not trying to be negative, just honest.  I am not sure if there is anything that can be done to lower those levels, but it is certainly worth asking.  

I would give the chlomide a try, but if it were me, I would want to know if my FSH was always high or not.   If I may, I would love to give you a few tips about taking clomid.  One of the possible side effects is it can dry up your fertile mucus.  This is the the mucus your body naturally produces during your fertile period.  Starting about a week before you should ovulate, try to avoid anything that may dehydrate you such as alcohol or caffeine.  Drink tonnes of water and in order to help things along, you might want to try a product called pre-seed.  You can't use lubricant while trying to conceive as it can interfere with the sperm's ability to get where it needs to go.You may want to try a product called pre-seed.  It is a natural lubricant that mimics the natural lubricant your body produces during that time frame.  I live in Canada and haven't been able to find it in stores here, but I order it on-line and it works really well for me.  The other thing you can do is take Robitussin (yep, the cough syrup..lol).  Make sure you buy the type where Robitussin is the ONLY active ingredient.  I take a few teaspoons a day starting 4-5 days before ovulation.  It really really helps your body produce more natural mucus.  Without, the sperm cannot live, and you cannot conceive.  Good luck to you!!

[IsabelleCanada]

Hi! All the advise that ADGAL gave you is dead on... she knows her stuff!!


other than that, unless you have a medical past suggesting that you have fertility issues, I would simply start actively trying, take a prenatal every day, watch your weight, vut down on caffeeine and alcohol, exercise, take a DHEA supplement daily and have lots of unprotected sex at the right time of your cycle. That's what I did and despite an unfavorable diagnosis (less than 1% chance of conceiving because of a blocked fallopian tube) and a failed IVF, I am 38 years old about to give birth to a baby boy in a few weeks conceived completely naturally.

good luck...

ps obsessing over it is actually counter-productive... I know it's hard to stop the wheels from turning in your head but I tortured myself and obsessed over it for 2 years and it never worked.  I evenutually quit and decided to adopt and got pregnant 2 weeks after our 1st meeting with an adoption agency.

[Rainy48]

Hey thanks for this (and congratulations and good luck Isabelle X)

adgal - have you ever heard of anyone with such a high FSH as me conceiving? And btw I just ordered some pre-seed (thanks).

[adgal]

You know in all honesty, I am not sure.  I have definately heard of them being really high one month, and much lower later though.  I started googling high FSH levels, and there are some sites that recommended certainly dietary changes, supplements, etc. you can take that are supposed to help.  I have never tried this myself, so no idea if it works, but you might find some of the info interesting.  I really do wish you luck and SSBD!!

[Rainy48]

Thank you all.

And, I think it's sunk in now.

[udbe2]

Rainy-- Don't give up.  I'm 36 and expecting hopefully if it sticks, my first child.   My doctor told me when I was 24 that I would never be able to get pregnant since my tubes were blocked.  After 14 years of unexplained infertility and many different treatments, I got pregnant last year only to loose that one but I'm pregnant again with a healthy baby now.  

Also have you tried OPK's?  I always charted before however these last two cycles I've used the OPK's and got pregnant right away.