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young girls having sex
Ok, I just checked out the 20 and under pregnancy forum and I am so very upset! Why are these girls getting pregnant so young? Don't their parents even talk to them? I don't understand a 13 year old having sex and then asking if she could be pregnant?! A 17 year old with twins! They don't use protection, don't they realize they could get an STD or AIDS? Where are the parents? Wake up America and talk to our children, boys and girls, they really need the help and also some help on spelling also :)
I am big enough to recind about teen parenting as I reread your post and do not know the ages of your daughters. Either way, you have a right to your opinion no matter how offensive it may be. I did the best I could and Planned Parenthood isn't free to all, check the facts. I have been there done that.
why the attack on meli? what did she say that was so wrong? i agree you cant be a friend to your child. i dont mean you have to be stern and all rules all the time but come on you are there for one reason, to teach the right way and to lead them by example. tonight i saw a mom of two teen girls wearing a tube top with no bra, white see through pants with no chonies, and the girls wore skirts that barely covered their !@sses. what kind of mom was she? a friend. we all have different parenting skills, and only us as moms can choose what is the best way, but there are some ways that are rediculous. i dont want to sound preachy or whatever but if your 13 yr old son is having sex, how and when and where? are you never home? does he have free time without adult supervision? i was a teen and at 13 i wasnt allowed to roam the streets. i had someone home when i came home from school, and if i didnt i knew better than to leave the house or have anyone over. i wasnt perfect but im sure some will say i am coming off thinking that it always happens when someone doesnt like what is said.
its starting to become a maury show here. there are ways to bring up responsible teens, that will still do things they shouldnt, but dont let them run wild about town!! be strict, know where they are, know their friends, be parents not their buddies. hopefully those of you who were teen parents can change things so its not a family ;tradition.
its starting to become a maury show here. there are ways to bring up responsible teens, that will still do things they shouldnt, but dont let them run wild about town!! be strict, know where they are, know their friends, be parents not their buddies. hopefully those of you who were teen parents can change things so its not a family ;tradition.
yes most kids will have sex regardless BUT the ones that are well parented wont generally feel the desire to have a child at a young age... that is a fact.. sorry
oh and I think home school is great for those who do it well... It is hard for kids to have in influence of all the "bad" kids in class that get all the attention because of behavior problems.. many times the well behaved kids don't get what they need because of that... and well if you are so poor you can't afford birth control it is free at planned parenthood if you don't qualify it is because you make too much and as I said birth control is much cheaper than raising a child... oh I take that back I guess well fare is there to foot the bill..
Until you are the parents of a teenage daughter, it's hard to judge. I highly doubt it's my fault that my girls made tremendous mistakes by having sex WAY, WAY too early. I did all I could do about educating them - maybe I went overboard. However, they are accountable for their actions - even at 17 years of age.
Tennessee - I think you need to rethink some of your statements about the parents being at fault. There are parents who are at fault but not every single one of them!! In fact I would go so far to say teenagers have to take responsibility for their actions.
Also, being a friend to your child doesn't mean you let them run around town dressing trashy and being out all hours of the night. Far from that for some of us. I don't know if my girls at that time would call me a 'friend' but they did confide in me. I'm positive it wasn't about everything but I knew what was going on in their lives. You might think that's the reason they made the mistakes that they did. I believe I set good examples for them (and some lousy ones as I got pregnant during college). I was brutally honest w/them about consequences of their actions - all of them.
I don't blame my parents for me getting pg at the age of 19. They were devastated and hugely disappointed in me. I crushed them in a way- still feel that way. 19 is a lot different than 15 or 16 but in some ways it's not. No matter what we do the best we can - most of us anyway.
Now to contradict myself: the other day my dh dispensed plan b to a girl whose entire family - including grandma - was there. They were somber but supportive & impressed upon the girl the seriousness of her actions (she was 15). Then the same day, he dispensed it to a girl whose mother had come w/her. They were lighthearted and joking about it and he was sickened. Maybe the mother was having some midlife crisis and trying to relive her youth through her child, who knows.
One more thing I'll say and then i'll shutup (I promise). I told my son that if he had sex w/a peer (girl), he was going to get his @ss kicked by me! I told him that there was no teenage girl who 'wanted it' - it was a myth - not totally true but I wanted to get a point across to him that boys most often manipulate young girls into 'doing it' & it leaves them w/the mess to deal with. It's not fair but it's the way it is which is why I had to say that to my son. I definitely wasn't his friend, I can tell you. Sorry for the rant!!!
Tennessee - I think you need to rethink some of your statements about the parents being at fault. There are parents who are at fault but not every single one of them!! In fact I would go so far to say teenagers have to take responsibility for their actions.
Also, being a friend to your child doesn't mean you let them run around town dressing trashy and being out all hours of the night. Far from that for some of us. I don't know if my girls at that time would call me a 'friend' but they did confide in me. I'm positive it wasn't about everything but I knew what was going on in their lives. You might think that's the reason they made the mistakes that they did. I believe I set good examples for them (and some lousy ones as I got pregnant during college). I was brutally honest w/them about consequences of their actions - all of them.
I don't blame my parents for me getting pg at the age of 19. They were devastated and hugely disappointed in me. I crushed them in a way- still feel that way. 19 is a lot different than 15 or 16 but in some ways it's not. No matter what we do the best we can - most of us anyway.
Now to contradict myself: the other day my dh dispensed plan b to a girl whose entire family - including grandma - was there. They were somber but supportive & impressed upon the girl the seriousness of her actions (she was 15). Then the same day, he dispensed it to a girl whose mother had come w/her. They were lighthearted and joking about it and he was sickened. Maybe the mother was having some midlife crisis and trying to relive her youth through her child, who knows.
One more thing I'll say and then i'll shutup (I promise). I told my son that if he had sex w/a peer (girl), he was going to get his @ss kicked by me! I told him that there was no teenage girl who 'wanted it' - it was a myth - not totally true but I wanted to get a point across to him that boys most often manipulate young girls into 'doing it' & it leaves them w/the mess to deal with. It's not fair but it's the way it is which is why I had to say that to my son. I definitely wasn't his friend, I can tell you. Sorry for the rant!!!
of course we all make mistakes!!! and we all have a story to tell... Im not even going there..lol would be way too long. As long as a lesson is learned, is all that maters.
I have worked with children, TEENs at that. so I see the peer preasure put on them everyday. Thank God, because it gave me the road to go with my dd. and a heads up on how to go about it. Some of these things would curl your toes if you knew.
parenting is tough !!!! so who do you blame if its not the parent? OMG... Im talking about the big picture.. when it comes down to the root of the problem I believe its the parent.......for whatever reason.
yes... I have had some big challenges with my dd. there again, not going to explain for I would need a whole post. but I will tell you, I took care of the issue the best I knew how. and by golly I waited tables to make it happen. and I will do the same with this one, ugh.. if able.
I went back and re read my post.. and there again?...I have no problems accepting the fact that my child is a product of how she was raised.
for those that arnt taking blame of your childs action? who are you blaming? geez.. must be the school teacher? even the Law... waits till their 18.
my point is... Teens (boy or girl) need to be raised just as we raise toddlers. Just because they get alittle older doesnt mean you stop talking and teaching and asuming they know better. A parents job is never over! hell... Im 45 and am blessed to still have a parent alive to drive me crazy and make sure IM at my best.
just my opinion....
I have worked with children, TEENs at that. so I see the peer preasure put on them everyday. Thank God, because it gave me the road to go with my dd. and a heads up on how to go about it. Some of these things would curl your toes if you knew.
parenting is tough !!!! so who do you blame if its not the parent? OMG... Im talking about the big picture.. when it comes down to the root of the problem I believe its the parent.......for whatever reason.
yes... I have had some big challenges with my dd. there again, not going to explain for I would need a whole post. but I will tell you, I took care of the issue the best I knew how. and by golly I waited tables to make it happen. and I will do the same with this one, ugh.. if able.
I went back and re read my post.. and there again?...I have no problems accepting the fact that my child is a product of how she was raised.
for those that arnt taking blame of your childs action? who are you blaming? geez.. must be the school teacher? even the Law... waits till their 18.
my point is... Teens (boy or girl) need to be raised just as we raise toddlers. Just because they get alittle older doesnt mean you stop talking and teaching and asuming they know better. A parents job is never over! hell... Im 45 and am blessed to still have a parent alive to drive me crazy and make sure IM at my best.
just my opinion....
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