Intimacy Issues

[Rosa09]

Hi everyone!
I really need some advice.
This maybe a little too much info for some of you so just FYI.
Ever since I got pregnant (almost eight months ago) there has been a real huge lack of intimacy in our relationship.
Of course my husband and I are happy about our incoming baby but I am feeling real unloved, not sexy, unattractive, undesirable, etc.
I just don't feel like he wants me. Most of it is because he doesn't touch me in any sexual desiring way or kiss me passionately.
Unlike most pregnant women my sex drive has shot through the roof and I desire him all the time but I feel like he doesn't feel the same.
Everytime I tell him how I feel he says I'm being ridiculous and that he doesn't agree with what I'm feeling.  He swears that nothing has changed and that he loves me and blah blah blah.
But I just want him to touch me, kiss me, want me...or ANYTHING!!
I have some self esteem issues now with the body changes plus with the lack of intimacy in my relationship; I feel as if he wants other women. I feel like he will cheat and although I know he probably won't, its a constant worry in my mind. Please help!
What do I do??!!

[Fe411Fe]

My sister had the same issue when she was pregnant. And i know i will probably be the same way once I'm bigger... But what she did was make herself feel sexy. She did her hair and makeup real nice and we went out and bought her new lingerie that she loved and made her feel sexy. I know a lot has to do with how you perceive yourself. And your husband or significant other sees you feeling sexy and looking awesome he will start acting the way you want in the bedroom.

[teregarcalva]

It may all be in your head hun. Most days I feel like shrek and my husband constantly reminds me of how attractive I am but it goes in one ear and out the other. My sex drive has shot through the roof as well but there's nothing I can do about it since he's deployed overseas at the moment. My advice is get dolled up and out something nice on and just take control. Men are clueless when it comes to this stuff. If you want it go and get it hahaha at least that's what I would do. Good luck love, hope you feel better soon!

[averysmommy111813]

I swear I am right there with you girl...I actually just posted almost the exact same thing! I am so upset and feel unwanted/unloved/unattractive! My husband could care less!

[anm89]

Alot of guys are weird about having sex while their partner is pregnant. They just don't know what to do and what not to do. Or he might just be freaked out. My husband was like that with our first child, but now that he knows what to expect he's much better with this pregnancy. I'm so sorry that you feel like that though. So many people say that pregnancy is the time that we women shine the most and are at our most beautiful. I believe that to be true. Those feelings are also boosted by those awful hormones, making you feel gross sometimes. Hopefully it will pass for you soon. I hope I helped a little! =)

[mama_monster]

My boyfriend is exactly the same way. Everytime I tell him that I want him to pay attention to me he just brushes it off & I feel like I'm nagging. Idk how to make it change but if you figure it out please let me know!! Just know you're not alone.