enough:-(

[charhelm13]

Well looks like the single life is upon me at 12eksthe pregnant with my 5th child. Daddy keeps making it more and more clear that he wants nothing to do with either of us. Unless some miracle happens I'm looking for a new place on my own. Anybody know of anywhere cheap to live in Lansing, Mi with 5 kids? Sound like such a joke, I feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest:-(

[AnnieBrooke]

Sweetheart, please give yourself a deadline by which you will stop kidding yourself and will knock off the magical thinking, like, next Friday.  You're stronger than you think.  You can make this work.  There are solutions you have not even thought of, and fate has a way of rewarding people who take practical forward steps.  

[charhelm13]

Thank you ladies I just feel really lost right now. I think I'm still hoping for a miracle and praying he turns around.

[jwilliams81]

You don't have to wait for birth to get him listed for support. All that can begin now

[khawkins]

I don't know about the states, but here in Canada a judge would make the husband look for a new place to live as they will never put a mother and children on the streets with no where to go. I would suggest talking to a lawyer and finding out your rights before you move out with your kids.

[nichole75315]

I was in a very similar boat not too long ago.  I'll share just because it might give you some hope... or maybe you'll be able to breathe.  I have 3 biological children.  Oldest never met his dad as being a DJ in New Orleans is more important (if you're from NO and you know the scene I'll be happy to give up the deadbeats info because he's garbage.)  Last 2 are the same daddy - his names Andy.  Andy decided after 6 years he was gonna take the kids camping while I had an Upper Respitory Infection to give me rest... and well... he brought them home with his girlfriend in the car.  A month later I got a call that my brother was being abused (his foster home had a serious infestation of bed bugs) and I ran to pick him up.  I fought for custody and took care of my 3 all during Xmas time last year.  Long story short, get on the phone with Section 8 and any other housing places.  Call the SHELTERS for women and say you are about to be put out with 5 kids.  It's winter - I'm nextdoor in WI.  THEY WILL HELP YOU.  Have faith in humanity because good people do exist it just takes a lot of putting yourself out there.  You are an amazing mother because you are asking for help because you need it.  The state takes cases more seriously when you get the extra help too.  That man is not someone that deserves you or any one of you.  I'm 36w with my fourth (fifth if you count my brother).  I live in housing for now but I'm merely inches from hitting the downpayment on my own home.  Breathe.  Don't be ashamed to cry.  My 7 year old son tells me everyday he loves me because I'm the strongest person he knows.  That man is stupid.. let me just say that from experience.  If a woman can handle TWO children...he shouldn't dare testing her abilities.  You will be able to laugh in the end - I promise.  My ex tells me constantly he misses his family.  NOT my issue. :)

[almostmommyof5]

I am so sorry.. message me if u need to talk!

[charhelm13]

Thank you so much. I don't care about support financially. Can't make him pay til its born anyways just really need gis moral support right now:-(

[RockRose]

I agree he needs to pay child support,  as well as any other dads that aren't in the picture for your other 4 children.

This really doesn't sound do-able without Section 8 housing or other rental assistance.

Here's the link for Lansing's Section 8 housing phone number,  and a link on the left hand side for "renters assistance" will open up a number of other resources

http://www.michigan.gov/mshda/0,4641,7-141-7620-14865--,00.html

[NatFox]

Aaaw.... Sorry to hear that :( i can't imagine having no moral support from my partner.....

[AnnieBrooke]

Daddy can "say he wants nothing to do with either of you" all he wants, but as far as child support is concerned, he doesn't get to say.  Talk to your lawyer.  Per housing:  talk to a local women's center about low-income housing for families.