My boyfriend left me, but wants to be in the delivery room.

[roxygemini]

I thought that after a year and a half, and this pregnancy, that I had found my happily ever after. Unfortunately I have had my whole world changed from amazing to complete uncertainty.
That being said, all sadness aside, I need some major input here.
He has hardly talked to me at all during the past month. Not to check up on my Dr visits or anything. But after talking to him today, about the baby, he wants to be in the room during the delivery.
I feel like it is such an intimate and joyous moment, and don't want him there. It will be emotional, and akward, and I don't want the disctraction or the privacy of the labour being shared with him.
He is livid. Says its my selfishness in my feeligs towards him and that it would be robbing him.of his rights as a father.
Should I really be indifferent? Should he be there because he is the father, or am I right in my choices as it is my labour. Help?!?

[QueenRai]

Sistah gurl....no. He does not deserve that privilege. He has the audacity to say you're being selfish....ha! He lost that right when he decided to run on you. I know you're very emotional right now but you must find the strength inside to be strong and stand on your square. He mad...tough. Surround yourself with loved ones who will bring about positive energy.

[babydue07182013]

Robbing him if his rights as a father? Really? He should've manned up and been there for you THE WHOLE TIME. Not all of the sudden start ordering you and telling you hes going to be in there. No. He doesn't have that right. If you don't want him in there tell him no and tell the nurses and doctors he's not welcome

[Kate037]

I find it hilarious that hes calling YOU the selfish one after HE dipped and did his own thing. You have to give up so much for this baby, don't let him bully you. You get to decide who is in the room. If I were you I wouldn't even call him until after the baby is born.

[angelmrm2001]

Since he wasn't there during the pregnancy I would say no he can see the baby after!

[roxygemini]

Thank you so much for the replies. It makes me feel a lot better in knowing that I am not thinking hormonally or irrationally in not wanting him there. It's the most confusing time of my life. I want to always do right by Kayla, but I don't feel as though this is wronging her in any way by not sharing my delivery with her Dad.
I have feelings of shame in that my family didn't work out, and feel somewhat of a guilt, but than also feel like the day he choose to leave, and not bother communicating, put the decision up to me on whom I want to share this special moment with.
Thanks for the support in this. It means a lot to have other opinions backing mine, when he is chastising me for this one.

[maybay]

Remember it takes two to make a relationship work. You are not a failure, and in my eyes are an amazing woman. You are going to be an amazing mommy and role modle for your little girl. She has such a strong mommy and kind mommy to take care of her. Wishing you all tge best!