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do all men watch porn & get off on it?
I'm 27, happily married to a wonderful guy. I love him with all my heart.
The problem is, I don't agree to the Whole porn viewing/ masturbating to it. I feel betrayed, and like I'm not good enough for him. We've talked about it but he can't give it up. It's not excessive, but when it happens, I'm pretty hurt, cuz he tries to hide it from me. Do all men, committed to their partners do this? I'm so sad!
The problem is, I don't agree to the Whole porn viewing/ masturbating to it. I feel betrayed, and like I'm not good enough for him. We've talked about it but he can't give it up. It's not excessive, but when it happens, I'm pretty hurt, cuz he tries to hide it from me. Do all men, committed to their partners do this? I'm so sad!
I'm 27 too and my husband watches porn sometimes. He has a way higher sex drive than I do. He would love it if we had sex at least once a day but it isn't reasonable. So some days he's feeling extra frisky and I'm not so he turns to porn. It bothered me a first but I know its not about those girls...its about getting that sexual release. I'm not really into porn myself but I've watched a couple with him from time to time to find out what he likes. Its pretty interesting. It can be really hard but I wouldn't take it personally.
I don't feel anyway about a man watching porn men are sexual beings.. I feel if he step out an have sexual contact with someone else is a problem.. But videos is nothing.. or as one lady above said internet sexing is a problem.. but watching videos is nothing if anything I will watch them to... You never no you can learn something new to bring to the bedroom.. Don't get jealous join it.. role play.. you never know you might like it...
Priests also get in trouble for touching little boys so they aren't the greatest example! And I know not all of them but I'm Catholic and girl it happens all the time!
Okay ladies my husband has a high sex drive and I have had like no sex drive since I got pregnant. Well even before being pregnant its been lower. I have a lot of female problems and sex hurts 7 out of 10 times. But porn isn't cheating as long as my man is happy and isn't touching another woman or talking to another woman or sexting like someone else said! I'm good. I know he loves me and he knows I would cut his penis off if he did mess around on me! I like shows w sex in them they turn me on. Watch the Tudor series and tell me your not turned on!! Its a really good show and has some damn good sex!
No, not all men watch porn. It's not a necessity. Men are not going to die if they don't have sex or masterbate. There are plenty of celebrate men who have been that way all their life (priests being an example).
My husband and I struggled with this. He watched porn a lot. Porn creates unrealistic expectations and fantasies about sex. There are 12 step programs to help people who feel they need porn. There's also meetings for partners affected by another's porn watching. I go to a meeting called S-anon. It's helped me a lot.
My husband and I struggled with this. He watched porn a lot. Porn creates unrealistic expectations and fantasies about sex. There are 12 step programs to help people who feel they need porn. There's also meetings for partners affected by another's porn watching. I go to a meeting called S-anon. It's helped me a lot.
Unfortunately I'm not married but with prev bf they liked watching porn whereas it never did much to me but since he like it, it was harmless for me to sit back n watch with him.. Try new things n see wht else he like so I can try it myself without the DVD. Jus b open to new things cause I'd rather him watch it home with me then sneak off with other females or spend too much money at the adult stores. We even went to the store together to pick out a movie to watch together.
I don't see anything wrong with watching porn, whether it's your husband watching it or you. I agree with the poster above that said that just because a man watches porn doesn't mean he's not faithful. Men are visual and enjoy the visual stimulation. I'm a woman and I watch it probably more than my husband does and it certainly doesn't mean that I don't love my husband or that I would stray. Far from it!
Good for u! Glad u sorted things out :-)
More power to the women who can watch porn with their husband but I feel like in a relationship you have to have mutual feelings on certain things specially like those. Some women are ok with it and some women are not, now it's just up to u how u want to do things. I personally rather not know or even hear of that I just feel like it's gross......
It go.. In fact, when I'm needy, I know where to turn when he's not around, n he won't judge me for it.
I guess I should have added, that I had our baby almost two months ago, and my sex drive is so much higher then his, but becuz we have Kids, its hard to find time for ourselves. He doesn't sit around and watch it, its in the mornings, before work, n he admitted to me why he does it.. I am ok with that now that we had the talk.. I'm gunna let out go
My husband and I have been together 10 years, we are on baby number 3. I know he watches porn, I have no issue work it as long as it stays at watching and he's doing they pleasing to himself. I've watched with him, we've created or own. Change up the sex scenerio. I have roughly 3 weeks left in this pregnancy, I'm in constant pain n well pretty bitchy, he's constantly asking for sex so when I'm not feeling it I don't mind him handling his business. I'd much rather know so I'm not walking in on it blind sided. He's no way addicted by any means, porn is a fantasy for most guys. I suggest telling your hubby how it makes you feel and ask if he can respect your wishes. Have a very laid back convo abs be open minded. Don't judge him for watching, when he's done talking calmly express how you feel as his wife and a woman and see if you 2 can work it.
No not all men do. I don't understand how a grown man with a wife and Family that works has time to sit around and do that.. there are more important things in life. if a guy.does this and hides it or says he can't help.it... then in my.opinion they need some therapy of some sort. because it's not normal.
I'm not into my husband watching porn. But I become the biggest hypocrite while pregnant. Because I'm so overly horny while pregnant I try and watch porn or soft porn . I want to get one all the time! Its my dirty lil secret when I'm pregnant. And I think he would be turned on if I told him but I can't bare to be the hypocrite and telling him I'm unomfortable with him watching it any other time and then I do. Its opening a can of worms I'm not willing to do. So it's Wong but as in said it's my lil secret
My husband does not we both see porn as cheating and are commited to eachother and only eachother.
I would feel betrayed by it also it is his want for someone/thing other then you.
I dont believe porn should be allowed within a relationship at all but thats just my opinion
I would feel betrayed by it also it is his want for someone/thing other then you.
I dont believe porn should be allowed within a relationship at all but thats just my opinion
I am always totally baffled when women react like this to porn, my partner doesnt see the hype about it and doesnt watch it, but i do! I work a 9-6 job whereas he works til midnight and when i wanna get in the mood, on it goes! It is no betrayal! If he was there i would be with him instead and much happier for it, it isnt some seedy thing to do, it is a release once in a while! We have even got ideas from it and brought them to our own fun time! Although if you are in the house with your partner and one of you is looking at other men/women when you could easily be with each other, amd hiding it from one or the other...thats when it bevomes wrong and seedy, to me it is something for fun and to explore, not hidden or to replace your partner! If you are very different minded about it then how suited are you as a couple?! How great is your so called great partner if they choose other women over you when you are there, ready and willing! And if you never have sex, if your are not rwady and willing, well then you have more important issues than a bit of porn!
Mamiofstb3 haha I'm with u ;)
I don't know if all men do but I don't mind. Since I got pregnant I haven't been craving sex like before, so I know my husband watches it. Sometimes we do it because I don't want him to get used to just be able to get off when watching porn.
Honestly I had the same problem too but I started to watch it to get some new ideas. And look at me now in the pregnancy forum with you lovely ladies :). My porn tips proved to me that I wasn't infertile.
To be honest, I'm the one into the porn and have to talk my husband to watch it with me. Not that we actually watch much of it!!! ;) he likes it kind of because it's visually stimulating but he prefers just me, the real thing, to that. I like it cuz it gets me worked up to take him on and outdo those fake females with real, honest noises.
Hey! My husband is the same! He watches pornhub regularly I checked his google history lsst night & he had a veiwrd it like 10 times on sunday!! I don't mind him waching it cuz he duz have a higher sex drive than me but I thought this was extensive to say the least lol so I asked him bwt it &:he sed he loves sex he can't help it!! But sed he wont watch it anymore. ...I dont believe that for 1 second tho!! I Dont class it as cheating men just think about things differently :-)
No, not all men watch porn. Cut him some slack, if he just wants porn and not you is one thing. But if he watches porn on his own time, let him. Do you rather have him be with another person?
No it's not all men.... not to get into your sexual life to much but do u randomly send him sexy nudes and maybe make videos of your own recorded in his phone so when or is he does masturbate it's to you or a video Y'all made together so u won't feel so betrayed... men have needs just like us woman and it's our job to fulfill those needs so they don't go elsewhere looking for it
Yes I had the same problem and the same feelings! Before I got pregnant, I didn't care that he watched it. But after I found it I was pregnant, my feelings turned into rage every time I found it in his phone! We had horrible fights about it for about 3 months because he wouldn't stop...he just started being sneaky. I had enough one day and kicked him out for almost a week. After that, he said he couldn't look at it anymore because he felt guilty every time he tried. Ever since then, iI haven't caught him watching it. I'm not suggesting you kick him out, but I think men need to know how serious you really are about situations before it sinks in. I hope you don't have to go thru those feelings for much longer and that your hubby will try to work on this issue with you!
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