not sexy :-(

[xcitednscaredmama]

So my husband is in the military and just came back from a course abroad after 3 months. I am now 32 weeks pregnant and he is freaked out by the belly, he doesn't want to have sex anymore and hardly ever touches me or cuddles up to me. I feel so unsexy and really don't like how the pregnancy changed our relationship. Also everyone keeps telling me how the baby changes the relationship even more and obviously there's no sex after giving birth either. Guess I'm just looking for some positive relationship stories. How did the baby influence your relationship and love life?

[bholcomb]

My husband is away alot and when he comes home he will always talk about how much bigger I am. I'm 36 weeks and to be honest sex isn't that good for me now but my husband enjoys it. Try maybe playing around and see what happens. Most men are scared of hurting the baby. Talk with your dr about it when your husband is there. Good luck

[rina2015]

Three month of not seeing you especially towards the end of the pregnancy makes a huge difference in how much you have grown. And it's actually quite common for men to be scared to hurt the baby. Talk to him but also give him time. My husband felt uneasy with our first as well.  We are pregnant with number three now and no issues at all. He just had to get used to it and change his mindset that he would hurt the baby.

[babyhalestorm]

^ lol thanks for bragging and not helping with the situation in question at all.
Girl, you need to tell him what you want! My hubby always says "just tell me what you want me to do and I'll do it! Men can't read minds regardless of what you do and how mad you get!" It's true, if he loves you he will try his hardest to change what he's doing / not doing, don't expect him to know how you feel. With all these pregnancy hormones I don't even know how I'm feeling, it changes so often. Communication is key in any relationship, you think communicating is hard now wait until the baby comes. It's best to build the strongest and best relationship now.

[xcitednscaredmama]

Thank you Naki123 for actually answering my question :-) I think I made him sound way worse than he is. He is also caring and excited about baby and he cooks and cleans as often as possible. I think he is trying to stay away from me so he doesn't get horny lol

[Naki123]

I'm going to give you a positive story as that is what you asked for.

My husband and I have been together 8 years but only got married last July. when we found out we were expecting in August, he became the most wonderful, kind caring man a women could ever want. He not only has been involved with doctor appointments but he had taken over almost all the cooking and cleaning so I don't strain myself... He snuggles and touches the baby,as well as can still preform in bed. We have always been best friends but the baby has brought us even closer together.

[Wo0oT7917]

Shoot just take him with you to your dr appointment and have them tell him itll be ok I had to do that with my bf I was fed up lolgl girlie