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am I being selfish???
I'm 23 + 5 and going to Cali in 3 days to visit my mom for a week. She told me to stay for an extra week for my nieces baby shower, I honestly don't want to go cause I'm not having a baby shower and I don't feel like going to nobody elses baby shower if its not mine, especially cause we're both having a girl. Btw, nobody knew about her pregnancy until her mom started inviting everyone for her baby shower. Am I being too selfish???
I feel the same way you do about going to another shower. granted this is my 3rd kid and a boy and my youngest is a boy and they are 4 yrs apart and I really don't need anything. But when my mom got more excited about my little brothers girlfriend having a baby and a shower for her it just kinda hurt it's almost like nobody cares that I'm having a baby yes it's her first but don't they all deserve to be just as excited about as the next. Any way I it roped into throwing a baby shower for my brothers GF and and don't really want to but my mom played the guilt trip on me
I think it's just my hormones going crazy with this pregnancy cause I didn't feel nothing like this with my other baby. @Farah_Remo you're right, I'm just going to try to ease up and go. :)
Im not having a baby shower either because im very superstitious and most of my babys stuff will be hand me downs. I attended 3 baby showers since ive been pregnant and it was really nice to see the different essentials the mother got for her baby. I didnt feel jealous at all. Maybe you should ease up a bit and go to it, theres no harm in it whether who found out first or who isnt having a shower. Thats all petty issues in my eyes
I feel that way also sometimes like no one cares but me and my hubby. This is our second child and will be second grandchild on both sides of the family. Then I found out a few weeks ago that my little brother who just got married ab 4 months ago to a girl he hardly knew is pregnant already. Keep in mind this is his second marriage in just over a year. First one wanted divorce 2 weeks later. Anyways know I feel like that's all anyone talks about and they live 9 hours away! Im happy for them don't get me wrong I'm just still not happy he fur married so quickly again I feel very protective of him he's 4 1/2 years younger than me and I love him very much :-) just makes rash decisions lol
I know I'm probably being selfish cause this is my fifth pregnancy, I have 4 boys ages 13, 11, 9, 8. But this is my first girl and I thought my family would of been exited for me. plus, I never ask nobody for nothing. My mother in law already told me not to worry about anything that my baby needs, but I just want to see baby stuff in my house already. I guess the only ones excited about this baby is my husband, kids, n myself. I know it's my baby n my responsibility to buy her things, but I just wanted my family to share my happiness.
You weren't planning on staying another week anyway, right? I'd use that as my excuse to leave. If you don't feel right, I wouldn't put myself through it. No one even showed up to my baby shower, so I find myself not going all out for people anymore because they won't do it for me. Sounds petty, but that's how it is.
When you get pregnant you have weird emotions. You will feel the same when you have your baby out and people start ooing and ahhing over another baby. I don't know why but afterwards you think your nuts. My suggestion you are pregnant and miserable enough do what makes you happy. If it makes you feel jealous and that will make you unhappy don't go. You also don't have to lie about why you don't go. Tell your mom you are not having a shower for yourself and you really want to concentrate on your baby. I had to throw my sister in law a shower for her second baby... she had already had one for the first baby. I am on my sixth pregnancy and have not had a baby shower I know I sound like a horrid person but I had to do it the hard way and go to the store and buy the stuff my baby needed. My sister in law actually asked me to throw the shower and my brother expected me to do it. I was upset the entire time and would not encourage you to go if you don't really want to.
I feel u. I won't b getting one either. N I went to a friends baby shower b4 I even told any one I was pregnant n I selfishly could not give a crap about wat was going on at hers. It's hard to celebrate for someone else the exact thing u don't get to celebrate
No I doubt it's a double shower cause I live out of state n nobody knows I'm coming except my mom. I'm not having a baby shower of my own cause we don't really havefamily oor know anybody in this state. I have nothing for my baby yet. I'm happy for her I really am, I'm just jealous, I guess lol.
No you are not being selfish! Do as you please!
Why aren't you having a baby shower? Already have what you need? Maybe she doesn't have what she needs. You should consider trying to think more positively, it will make you feel better. She's my neice, I will enjoy her baby shower because I'm her aunt and she's family. In the end we're all loved and deserve happiness.
It could be a surprise and they might be having a double shower, one for you!
Yup. Both are good ideas lol.
Well, from your humor about it, perhaps you would enjoy going more than you think. Look at it this way, it is a chance to tell family members where you are registered. lol
Or, during the week, just before the shower, you could "get an unexpected call that you have to go home unexpectedly early" and therefore can't attend.
Or, during the week, just before the shower, you could "get an unexpected call that you have to go home unexpectedly early" and therefore can't attend.
You're right @AnnieBrooke I don't have to go, but I'm going to look like the biggest ***** lol. Oh well, I guess.
If it makes you feel bad or left out, you certainly don't have to go.
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