step daughter

[kirstlou]

I feel so selfish towards my step daughter im due to have my baby on 19th march my 1st. my husband's ex is due to have an op on april 2nd and has to stay in hospital for 7-10 days my husband cant get any time off work and his ex is threatening that if he doesn't have her she will have to go into care. I feel guilty because I dont want to have her as her behavior at mo is terrible and I will have a newborn. Anyone else think im selfish?

[KristiGG]

The mother just sounds like she is trying to take a special moment from them bc she is jealous.  But that is an idea...are you close to your MIL...could she stay with you and take care of her granddaughter while calling her out if she mistreat you?
And pls ignore any mean and/or judgemental comments. None of us know the whole situation so ppl fill in the blanks on their own and dont think about how they dont know and have never been in the situation.

[rainfamily16]

Is there really no one else??? No grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends no one??? I think most people forget what its like right after and for the first month after having a new baby!!! Your sore,tired, tons of emotions, the bonding and trying to get used to a new routine!! Even mothers who have children already have someone come stay with them to help out for the first couple weeks after baby is born!!! I don't care what anyone else says I don't think this should just be dumped all on you I mean yes your the step mom but because you'll have just had a baby and recovering yourself then being step mom is besides the point!! I really don't believe this lady had no other family or friends that can help her, she should ask someone else!!!!!

[kbbaby]

I am  33 weeks with baby number 1 n I too have a step daughter who a terrible 3 n I sometimes feel likeshe is goingbto be a hand full when the baby comes but then I watvh hervwith other babies n  she seem realy to care n her mom also has another bsby who is younger so she has the big sister role down but I did stress to my babys father that when the new bsby comes she has to go with her mom for a while cuz I dnt know if I can deal with it but her mom is unreliable n never in place so I may hs ve too still deal but he v works night shif t so il only b alone at night n the 3 year old sleeps most of the time so n my opinion maybev yu guys can worj something out and compromise n hechas to teach the child that yu are apart of their life n she has to obey or its always goba be complicated

[tessietemores]

I am 31 weeks. I have a step son that recently came to live with my husband and I due to mother being on drugs. He has add and adhd. I get stressed everyday cause im constantly getting calls from the school due to his behavior.  My husband works alot so most of it is left to me plus my 3 other sons. I to feel a little selfish, cause I seem to get more annoyed with him. I love him as my own son, but that doesnt take away the aggravation that I feel. I will give birth to my 1st daughter in 8 weeks ecactly and not sure I can handle it!! I could use some help!! Of course my husband thinks he does no wrong! So I know ecactly how u feel. Id say let her stay( shouldnt be to bad since its onlt temporary) just lay down the law and let them know u hve alot on u! Good luck to u!!

[kirstlou]

Wish I never posted on here now. People dont no the half of it. Its down to me as a step mum I no that but when her mother is threatening to leave and us never see the child makes it harder. Anyone no how to delete posts please

[asmith21488]

Yes thats selfish. If you knew he hsd a kid ahead of time you should have realized you will be second fiddle. Yes youll have a baby but shell always be around so youll need to get used to it.